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Why is he really nice and happy to talk to me and then tries to avoid me?

This has been going on for a while. He is a bit older, we see each other outside quite often and we never used to talk just watch each other. Until finally we started greeting eachother, laughing, talking, asking things and getting along. I was so sure he likes me, his eyes seemed interested in me for a year. His face lights up when I talk to him and he really pays attention to what I say but he has his guard up and wont flirt or be playful with me. If i try to be playful he gives me a funny look his eyes get bigger and he tries to change the subject (and I'm an introvert i don't flirt) anyway some days he's seems to really like me and others he keeps his distance, acts anxious avoids me won't even look at me and even seems a bit angry and wont even talk to me, like a vicious cycle. I asked him if I was bothering him and he said "no of course not don't be silly." So why all the anxiousness, avoiding me, one day nice one day rude, one day very interested next avoiding, one day open one day closed. Long question but I would appreciate some advice.
Virgo79 · 56-60, M
I'm guessing he's married, his off days may be when she's around.
But who knows
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@349935,Virgo79] I was just thinking about what you said and he could be intimated by me. Looking at me would you be intimidated?
Virgo79 · 56-60, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] I dont think I would, you seem pretty cool
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@349935,Virgo79] I am a nice person thank you so are you!
BigBen · 61-69, M
If he's a lot older he might be having trouble believing you're really attracted to him.
BigBen · 61-69, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] you're very welcome
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@323826,BigBen] I shall let you know what happens soon! Wish me luck I don't faint in front of him from lack of oxygen. It's been too long I've exhausted every possible scenario about his life, i have to ask if he's available.
BigBen · 61-69, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] please do that, I'd like to know. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
He sounds like he is hiding something. One thing I have always heard is if a man is interested he will make sure you know it and pursue you. I suspect he is not over his last relationship.
riseofthemachine · 36-40, M
If he's single, count your blessing that your away from him if he's playing mind games .
Could you imagine what it be like if you were with him if he's continuing like that with you
PatheticZombieClown · 46-50, M
He probably has a wife and kids that you need to dispose of to avoid such situations...
SW User
His wife was close by perhaps?
BigBen · 61-69, M
My guess is he's got some negative history with intimacy. Or, perhaps he's gay.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@323826,BigBen] wait, what?
BigBen · 61-69, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] just a wild guess. I didn't mean anything negative.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@323826,BigBen] first one probably, no to the latter.
JohnRing · 51-55, M
Is he married?
How big of an age difference?
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] Men don't always wear their wedding bands.
JohnRing · 51-55, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] good luck! Nothing wrong with trying.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@693773,JohnRing] his name is also John lol I know I need to just ask "are you married or with someone?" until I know that I'm stuck. If he is taken I will ask to be friends because just saying hello to him makes me a little happier.
teechme · 16-17, F

 
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