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Why is he really nice and happy to talk to me and then tries to avoid me?

This has been going on for a while. He is a bit older, we see each other outside quite often and we never used to talk just watch each other. Until finally we started greeting eachother, laughing, talking, asking things and getting along. I was so sure he likes me, his eyes seemed interested in me for a year. His face lights up when I talk to him and he really pays attention to what I say but he has his guard up and wont flirt or be playful with me. If i try to be playful he gives me a funny look his eyes get bigger and he tries to change the subject (and I'm an introvert i don't flirt) anyway some days he's seems to really like me and others he keeps his distance, acts anxious avoids me won't even look at me and even seems a bit angry and wont even talk to me, like a vicious cycle. I asked him if I was bothering him and he said "no of course not don't be silly." So why all the anxiousness, avoiding me, one day nice one day rude, one day very interested next avoiding, one day open one day closed. Long question but I would appreciate some advice.
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JohnRing · 56-60, M
Is he married?
How big of an age difference?
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@Joh @JohnRing good questions. He isn't married -no ring. He does have a kid so when he told me that i assumed he was in a relationship but he hasn't said if he's with anyone. I've tried asking about his life hoping he will say if hes with someone but he never mentions if he's with someone. Our age gap is about 15yrs. He has made a comment and called me young and himself old to which I told him my age and he seemed shocked. I look early 20s. Maybe age is an issue for him?
SW-User
@SweetFantasy Men don't always wear their wedding bands.
JohnRing · 56-60, M
@SweetFantasy good luck! Nothing wrong with trying.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@JohnRing his name is also John lol I know I need to just ask "are you married or with someone?" until I know that I'm stuck. If he is taken I will ask to be friends because just saying hello to him makes me a little happier.