I Think About Having An Affair

I struggle. It's a marriage that overtime has resulted in more arguing and stress. I make an effort but sometimes that effort is not good enough so there's a feeling of Despair and frustration.

@ughargh1: Are you in love with your wife? If you are, talk to her and try to work it out before you go with an affair. As I said before, once you do it, you can't unring that bell.

My advice is to work on figuring out why there is more arguing and stress. I have thought about having an affair numerous times. It's human nature to want to escape frustrating circumstances. That said, I have never known anyone who had an affair that didn't end up in even worse circumstances.

Have you considered marriage counseling? My husband and I have recently started seeing a therapist together to try and resolve our issues that have built up over the last 16 years.

@ughargh1: Wow! How do you do it? I'm seeking counseling for a bad break up and trying to understand my part in the break up. I gave myself 100%. This was my fault. I thought if I gave him what he needed he would take that next step, which we spoke about was marriage.

It seems as though overnight everything changed. I asked myself these questions such as, Did I miss something? What did I miss? Did I forget too take care of my man somehow? WTF?

It was hard to hear the truth from my therapist but I needed to hear it. I had to get to know who I was again, and believe you and me that has been the hardest thing to do.

If you want your marriage to work, then work on it. If you have had enough of the bullshit, then do what you gotta do. Either way be true to yourself and your family. Arguing like that sounds exhausting.