Potential mess [I Am Having An Online Affair]

I always believed that the affair I had with my ex was the only affair I would have.
I hadn’t got over my feelings for him and it all felt natural because we had been together before.
Now I find myself chatting with a guy online, exchanging photos (nothing explicit) and thinking about him all the time.
We’ve had a phone call that lasted over an hour but could’ve gone on for longer. He’s so easy to talk to and he’s not bad looking either.
We’re planning on FaceTiming soon and we both say we’d love to meet up.
A part of me is glad he lives about 4 hours away as I know we would’ve met up by now if he was fairly close by.

I now have to face that my marriage maybe past saving. I do love my husband but not with any passion, I clearly don’t hold much respect for him or I wouldn’t treat him so poorly.
My husband would give me the world if he could but that’s not what I want or need.
I need someone who understands me and thinks on the same wavelength.
I honestly feel my husband thinks I’m mad most of the time & goes along with things because he doesn’t know how to cope without me.
If I leave him it wouldn’t be for the other guy, the fact I can have feelings so strong for someone else tells me I shouldn’t be with my husband anymore.

Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

It is easy to be excited by someone new. It is difficult to work on what you have. The relationship you are describing is almost exactly how my wife and I interact. I have tried everything I can think of to get through to her, she chooses to ignore my efforts. I have approached her about divorce, she says she doesn't want a divorce, but apparently, she doesn't want to be a wife either, her effort seems non-existent to me.

The grass is always greener in the other pasture, there are millions of videos online my ex-husbands and ex-wives about how big of a mistake an affair is. I think in some cases the grass in the other pasture is due to excess fertilizer.