The whole idea of believing in soul mates is an act of self sabotage.
Comforting lies do not help us at all. the fact of the matter is if you think it's a matter of destiny you're going to give up the moment it gets difficult and it always does in every relationship so it will be really intense for a short window of time just enough for a one night stand and eventually you'll fight and give up because well if you're arguing that person must not be the one and then perpetually move on and on and on until the whole city has ridden like the town bicycle.
I'm not making this shit up either I base this all on hard research like Kree's paper
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201207/why-you-shouldnt-believe-in-soul-mates
believing in this comforting lie is a great way to get pregnant with a man you were only with for 4 days.
Do you believe in soul mates? Do you hold the idea that there is one person (or just a few), who is uniquely compatible with you? Do you feel that the right relationship should "just work out", with both of you loving each other easily as you are?
If so, you are definitely not alone. In fact, according to a January 2011 Marist poll, 73% of Americans believe that they are destined to find their one, true, soul mate. The percentage is a bit higher for men (74%) than women (71%). The notion is also higher among younger individuals, with 79% of those under 45 believing in soul mates (as opposed to 69% of those over 45).
Clearly, the belief in soul mates is pervasive. The majority of people hold tight to the idea of romantic destiny. The question remains, however, whether the belief ends up working out. Do people who look for a soul mate find them? Do soul mates live "happily ever after" more often?
Fortunately, research has the answer...
Research by Knee (1998) evaluated the impact of a belief in "romantic destiny" (i.e. soul mates) on the quality of actual relationships.
I'm not making this shit up either I base this all on hard research like Kree's paper
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201207/why-you-shouldnt-believe-in-soul-mates
believing in this comforting lie is a great way to get pregnant with a man you were only with for 4 days.
Do you believe in soul mates? Do you hold the idea that there is one person (or just a few), who is uniquely compatible with you? Do you feel that the right relationship should "just work out", with both of you loving each other easily as you are?
If so, you are definitely not alone. In fact, according to a January 2011 Marist poll, 73% of Americans believe that they are destined to find their one, true, soul mate. The percentage is a bit higher for men (74%) than women (71%). The notion is also higher among younger individuals, with 79% of those under 45 believing in soul mates (as opposed to 69% of those over 45).
Clearly, the belief in soul mates is pervasive. The majority of people hold tight to the idea of romantic destiny. The question remains, however, whether the belief ends up working out. Do people who look for a soul mate find them? Do soul mates live "happily ever after" more often?
Fortunately, research has the answer...
Research by Knee (1998) evaluated the impact of a belief in "romantic destiny" (i.e. soul mates) on the quality of actual relationships.
