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Can't believe I was that guy

I hate simps, absolutely hate them. But recently I realized I may have been simping to a girl I work with. Nothing drastic or what you see on here and other social sites. Its not like I served her hand and foot for the chance at a one night stand. No shes worth so much more than that. The girl in question is amazing. Super cute, fun, smart, tough, and feisty but also very genuine and sweet. Shes a 10 out of 10 easily. She and I also match energy, we're always poking fun at each other, not flirting just playing around. But alas, she is betrothed to another and could never be mine. Even still I could not get her out of my head and always looked forward to seeing her. She was the highlight of my day. She could get me to do basically anything, and I never really understood why I let her do that to me. Dont let your mind wander, it was always work related but often it was things I hated doing or should have been someone elses job. She knows shes pretty, I dont think its inflated ego I think its just confidence and high self esteem, like I said she seems very genuine to me. But because she knows shes pretty I think she uses that to her advantage sometimes. To get people to do jobs for her including me. On the one hand I dont mind that she uses her feminine beguile to get me to do things, on the other hand my pride rages and it angers me that I have succumb to it. I guess a part of me was hoping there was a connection, that there was some tiny sliver of hope in the nearby future. Because there have been times that she has said things to me that made me wonder how she felt. I can't exactly explain what it was she said, there is a context that I am unable to explain. One small example is that she asked me to keep her company in the office but the way she said it had me intrigued. Or that time there was a creepy old guy she was helping and I stepped in between them because he kept trying to sneak a peek, and something about the way that I moved in baffled her for lack of a better word. She didn't explain it to me very well but I'm not sure if she was impressed or stunned or what. But it felt like I had made an impression on her. The thing is I cannot put my finger on this girl and to be honest I kind of dig it. I love that she keeps me on my toes, always guessing, always being surprised by what she does next. I love that shes a mystery to me. Now to be fair, I wouldnt want her to leave her current bf for me, thats a red flag. Whos to say she wont do the same to me? I know its all fantasy but a guy can dream can't he? I'm sure some of you will say to leave, drop her, stop getting close to her because it will never work out and I'd only be hurting myself but I can't do that. I know she can't be mine but she is still the highlight of my day and I still love spending time with her even if its only ever at work. I can't say I've ever felt the same way about anyone, not even my ex from years ago. If I'm an idiot and pathetic, so be it.
SW-User
Even still I could not get her out of my head and always looked forward to seeing her. She was the highlight of my day. She could get me to do basically anything, and I never really understood why I let her do that to me. Dont let your mind wander, it was always work related but often it was things I hated doing or should have been someone elses job.

I know some don't see this as simping but it definitely is. You're clearly doing this to score points. You wouldn't do this for man-boob-Bob co-worker, because you don't care to impress him with your superior work ethic. So yes you're simping and what's worse, you're simping over someone else's girl. That means you're putting in work to make her life comfortable, and she goes and rewards another man with her time, body and affection.

Also this part here:

she is still the highlight of my day and I still love spending time with her even if its only ever at work.

You're fawning over another man's woman. Do you know what they do together at night maybe even all night while you day dream about her? You likely wake up every morning excited to see her while she gets morning wood down her sweet warm holes before work. Let that sink in.



If you are concerned about all that then stop, especially if you wouldn't like another guy work-husbanding his way into your GF/wife
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@SW-User i appreciate the brutal honesty. Could have done without the warm holes comment though. I am trying to rid myself of these feelings
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Torsten · 36-40, M
what would be a red flag about her leaving her bf for you? people end relationships all the time and that can tend to happen if someone in a relationship falls for another person.
Someone knowing what they want and not afraid to end what they have to start something new that would make them happier, is not a red flag in my eyes..
If it was marriage, that might be different but a bf/gf relationship is never really set in stone
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
Dude you are not a simp...you are in love
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@Girlbehindthecurtain yah well trying to curb those feelings. Its very heart wrenching
Wanting to be with a woman and doing things for them is not simping, it's called manners and respect.

 
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