I don't go to church and love of and solidarirty with women is like 70% of the reason while solidarity with LGBTQIA folk is 30%
Why I don't go to church anymore.
I really can't stand "Stand by your man" Christianity, it makes me absolutely LIVID when I see pastors telling women to stay with men who rape and abuse women.
I support the institution of Divorce simply because some men abuse women and that right is necessary, even though leaving a man who batters women is the most risky thing a battered woman can do, and I would HIGHLY caution those thinking about escaping to GET HELP first.
Get a shelter and someone who knows how you HIDE you because when batterer's think it's over they think there's nothing left to lose and often murder suicide. It's why you don't see me all Pulling the nice guy (TM) shit anymore because I KNOW these things now, and it horrifies me.
I also have gay male friends and Like Lesbians, even though you know It's not like I've never had a crush on one that I just had to be respectful to that I could never see that one through the way I wanted it to go.
I just don't like keeping those kinda feelings to myself with them. And btw when I get a crush it's not just horny ok like if I say I'm having feelings for you then probably a little of that, but it's not what you think like usually there's some real vulnerability and soft type emotions that go into too like now you can hurt my feelings.
Just a heads-up though to lesbians like if it makes you uncomfortable to even be aware or told I'm attracted to you, you might not want to be part of my world and that's all good
Here's the domestic violence hotline's number
1- 800-799-7233
Be careful, you might want to purge your browsers' history too. Clear it while you're on the phone with them.
REALLY scrub it, hell even 0 fill it with secure erase, look those up and how to.
I don't want to support the notion that homosexual sex is evil or wicked, I disagree, and I also think no woman should have to stay with a man who abuses her, nor should she be pressured to do so by religious assholes.
I left the pews over BOTH LGBTQIA issues and Women's Issues, and honestly of the two preaching modesty as some kind of protective shield when women in Burqas get sexually harassed and molested
https://www.barandbench.com/columns/sexual-harassment-has-nothing-women-dress-even-women-burqa-molested-lawyers-kerala-court-bail-order
Honestly a predatory frame of reference too would look at a woman in a Burqa and think AHHH my Society my culture, and its social customs tell women they ought to dress modestly so a woman who DOES is more submissive to society and thus regardless of the fact that my dumbass society thinks this protects her she's even more vulnerable to my predatory advances because she's submissive and has that quality of servility.
In other words, dressing proactively would actually be better protection than modesty because it shows willingness to break with convention and violate taboos, which takes confidence. -The predators would be frightened by it, they'd be aware you're very likely to have a rape whistle and run to the cops, which you'd have on speed dial.
You're being mislead by the elders.
The bigger half of why I left though was "Stand by your man" drives me to the point of wanting to punch holes in the wall myself and I have to restrain myself.
No woman should have to honor her vows as her man beats her. The fact that the church so frequently told women to stay with abusive men is a huge part of why I no longer go to church. Has a lot to do with my own loss of faith. Shit like that is why organized religion does more harm than good. And it does good. Which is why people always argue with me, but still the harm outweighs it.
Doesn't matter that I prefer to see you in the least amount of clothing humanly possible -preferably without any at all.
Truth is, men are going to be more intimidated by less clothing than more.
I'm not one of the dumbasses all why do women stay with abusive men? Because she's afraid he'll kill them! hurr durr! No fun! This sucks.
But in case it's not clear my position: if you're with an abusive man get help, get protection, and leave him.
[media=https://youtu.be/P1JawSJJggE]
I really can't stand "Stand by your man" Christianity, it makes me absolutely LIVID when I see pastors telling women to stay with men who rape and abuse women.
I support the institution of Divorce simply because some men abuse women and that right is necessary, even though leaving a man who batters women is the most risky thing a battered woman can do, and I would HIGHLY caution those thinking about escaping to GET HELP first.
Get a shelter and someone who knows how you HIDE you because when batterer's think it's over they think there's nothing left to lose and often murder suicide. It's why you don't see me all Pulling the nice guy (TM) shit anymore because I KNOW these things now, and it horrifies me.
I also have gay male friends and Like Lesbians, even though you know It's not like I've never had a crush on one that I just had to be respectful to that I could never see that one through the way I wanted it to go.
I just don't like keeping those kinda feelings to myself with them. And btw when I get a crush it's not just horny ok like if I say I'm having feelings for you then probably a little of that, but it's not what you think like usually there's some real vulnerability and soft type emotions that go into too like now you can hurt my feelings.
Just a heads-up though to lesbians like if it makes you uncomfortable to even be aware or told I'm attracted to you, you might not want to be part of my world and that's all good
Here's the domestic violence hotline's number
1- 800-799-7233
Be careful, you might want to purge your browsers' history too. Clear it while you're on the phone with them.
REALLY scrub it, hell even 0 fill it with secure erase, look those up and how to.
I don't want to support the notion that homosexual sex is evil or wicked, I disagree, and I also think no woman should have to stay with a man who abuses her, nor should she be pressured to do so by religious assholes.
I left the pews over BOTH LGBTQIA issues and Women's Issues, and honestly of the two preaching modesty as some kind of protective shield when women in Burqas get sexually harassed and molested
https://www.barandbench.com/columns/sexual-harassment-has-nothing-women-dress-even-women-burqa-molested-lawyers-kerala-court-bail-order
Honestly a predatory frame of reference too would look at a woman in a Burqa and think AHHH my Society my culture, and its social customs tell women they ought to dress modestly so a woman who DOES is more submissive to society and thus regardless of the fact that my dumbass society thinks this protects her she's even more vulnerable to my predatory advances because she's submissive and has that quality of servility.
In other words, dressing proactively would actually be better protection than modesty because it shows willingness to break with convention and violate taboos, which takes confidence. -The predators would be frightened by it, they'd be aware you're very likely to have a rape whistle and run to the cops, which you'd have on speed dial.
You're being mislead by the elders.
The bigger half of why I left though was "Stand by your man" drives me to the point of wanting to punch holes in the wall myself and I have to restrain myself.
No woman should have to honor her vows as her man beats her. The fact that the church so frequently told women to stay with abusive men is a huge part of why I no longer go to church. Has a lot to do with my own loss of faith. Shit like that is why organized religion does more harm than good. And it does good. Which is why people always argue with me, but still the harm outweighs it.
Doesn't matter that I prefer to see you in the least amount of clothing humanly possible -preferably without any at all.
Truth is, men are going to be more intimidated by less clothing than more.
I'm not one of the dumbasses all why do women stay with abusive men? Because she's afraid he'll kill them! hurr durr! No fun! This sucks.
But in case it's not clear my position: if you're with an abusive man get help, get protection, and leave him.
[media=https://youtu.be/P1JawSJJggE]
