Did your best friend ever make a pass at your wife?

But what about when it is not flirting anymore, but actual sex, @Mark4793? If you encourage this, odds are the proverbial barn door is opened, and it doesn't quite close again. Sort of falls into the "be careful of what you ask for" basket....

@VeronicaJane well the barn door was opened about 8 years ago. It was basically wide open for about 2 years. Not just the door was wide open also.

@Mark4793 how did you feel about it? Did you know at the time, or only later?

@VeronicaJane I found out afterwards. His wife caught onto them and when he realized they were caught he told my wife, then I found out from the wife messaging me on facebook.

@Mark4793 how did you feel?

@VeronicaJane very aroused but pretty pissed that she hid it from me for 2 years.

@Mark4793 well you had been encouraging her. 2 years and no clue, wow. Even though you had encouraged it, still selfish of her to hid it. Was she afraid of your reaction if she told you? She could have given you the opportunity to play for those 2 years too, but she didn't. That's cheating.

@Mark4793 so it wasn't fun or exciting once it wasn't behind your back? She really just messaged you on Facebook and not in person?