I Want to Be Loved

I´m aware we all do... I thought I´d be loved and cherished some 18 years ago when getting married...Not saying my husband doesn´t feel some kind of love for me but...the intimacy, the kind gestures are absent.

I can´t say he´s bad with me in other sense, but I do know I won´t be getting any kind of loving, sensual gestures from him...Just not the way he is, thinks, feels...I realized too late.

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adventureseeker1971 · 51-55, M

Good morning - Drinking my coffee, so bear with me ;). Like the gentleman below, I'm 18 years in but I'm with you on feeling like you do. I took the love language test with my wife and that was an eye opener for sure. There are 5 different characteristics in the love languages and these are things that you personally need/yearn to feel loved. This is subconscious and conscious. I don't now them all off the cuff, but you can Google it. The irony here after I had been married for 15 years is I found that my number one is physical touch (doesn't mean sex either) and her last out of five is physical touch. For her to come by and touch my shoulder, give me a kiss as she walks by, or just grab my ass and say "you're hot today" is not something that she thinks of and it would have to be a deliberate thing. Where as I'm doing that all the time. Her number one is acts of service and that's my last one. Just interesting after all these years. You guys should at least check that out...