Making love to a disabled man

@SwampFlower Yes I am...I can walk but I have to use a walking frame and its visible I cant walk and run as perfect people can. I have been accused to be drunked by people that cant see difference of a drunk person and a person with disability. I get humiliated by people that think they know but they dont. I get very envy and sad when I see people do things I wished I also could but never can do. I dont like pubs and other places with drunked people or very loud music, thats not my thing.

@SwampFlower when people ask questions like that how can I accommodate you vs what’s wrong with you...I try to explain for them but then they mix everything wrong and it gets humiliated instead, let me take an example...when I was out walking with my walking frame I met a totally unknown girl that asked how it goes. I showed her my handicap sign and she looked very fast at it and said later...aha its that but I know what it is she said...then tell me I said and she said something that was completely wrong and I said to her...no, you´re wrong stop humiliating me. I had a sign on me that said how it affects my body but her only way was to humiliate me.

@Mathias let me get this straight lol

A woman you didn’t know approached you and the first thing you did was flash your disability sign at her? Not gonna lie, that’s a little weird lol

And then I didn’t really understand the last part you said, but you talked to her again later? And then she asked about your disability and that was humiliating to you?

Dude lol. She was just trying to strike up a conversation with you and you were defensive right off the bat. Not many women are going to take kindly to that because they are going to feel defensive in response. Or at the very least, like they did something wrong just by approaching you.

Are you in any sort of therapy?

@SwampFlower You missunderstand me...The reason I have a sign on me is to tell people I have a disability and how it affects me. Its just an information sign nothing else. But this girl didnt boughter to read it instead she said she knew what it was but she didnt...noone knows it because I live with this every day and instead she said something else that humiliated me. And no I didnt talked more to her she wasnt even my kind of girl. I dont go in therapy...many years ago I did but not now. If people dont know nothing about a persons disability I think its better the dont say nothing at all. My disability is really hard to explain to others and a person that dont live every day with this have no idea how it is for me..And why is it weird to show people my sign...its for giving them information but they cant handle it the right way.

@Mathias She may not have known or understood how to react. I mean in my 70+ years no one has ever shown me a sign or anything like you're describing.

I sympathize with you but cannot really understand your situation. All I can offer is that the more people you can be around the better chance you will have. A know a couple of people who met in support groups. Also you might look into any dating sites that may be out there for handicapped people.

Best of luck to you.

@MoveAlong Thanks alot. My disability is very rare and people cant even pronounce it right. Noone can understand how this affects my body because they dont live with it .When I show them my sign they have never heard about it and think it has with taxi cabs to do. Not even my doc knew what it was he had to look it up in a book before he could say what it was. And the most frustrating was that it took 35 years to find it..