Seeking Love Isn’t Desperation — It’s Human

Just because a woman is seeking a man doesn’t mean she’s lacking anything.
I treat myself well. I buy myself nice things. I hold myself down in every way that matters.

But no matter how strong or independent a woman is, she’s still human and humans crave connection.
Wanting love, partnership, and emotional presence is not weakness. It’s real.

A man who truly wants to be there will show up no excuses, no confusion. So what’s the issue?
Why is it that when a woman expresses her desire for something genuine, it’s met with suspicion or judgment?

And if online dating isn’t safe, then why are we all here? Why does it even exist?
We come here because we want to find something meaningful not because we’re desperate or naive.

Some of us are just done pretending not to care.
We’re not looking for attention. We’re looking for something real.
Stop confusing intention with desperation.

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

Great post!

That human connection is also yet another viewport to experience life through as well as share our life experiences with someone else. It's like we not only have the joy of living our own life but also the joy of witnessing another's life up close.

One of my favorite love songs is John Prine's "You Got Gold"

I've got a new way of walkin' and a new way of talkin'
Honey, when I'm around you
But it gives me the blues when I've got some good news
And you're not there to bring it to

Life is a blessing, it's a delicatessen
Of all the little favors you do
All wrapped up together no matter the weather
Baby, you always come through
It's a measure of treasure that gives me the pleasure
Of loving you the way I do
And you know I would gladly say I need your love badly
And bring these little things to you"