Biggest realization I've ever had

I just got done listening to a few recording I had, which I don't want to get into.
I know he cheats, but at the same I feel like I don't have enough solid evidence to prove it and with that I have too much doubt to confront him with full confidence and conviction.
I was told recently by a temp therapist that my problem is I doubt myself too much. Since then I've been really trying to focus on figuring out why and where it comes from.
My recordings have slowly come together and even though I haven't finished putting all the pieces of the puzzle together and it still leaves him plenty of room for denial..... as of a few minutes ago I know now that I don't need to put the rest of it together. I will never have absolute proof that he won't argue with.
What I figured out is my "doubt" is the missing piece. It didn't come from childhood trauma or abusive past relationships or anything like that.

I put it there myself because it protected me from the truth that I wasn't ready to face.

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FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays · M

It seems like you've had a significant realization about your own doubts and how they've influenced your perception of the situation regarding your partner's potential infidelity. Doubt can indeed be a powerful self-protective mechanism, helping us navigate situations that may be difficult to confront head-on.

Ultimately, it's important to trust your intuition and prioritize your own well-being. If you feel deep down that something isn't right in your relationship, it's crucial to address it in a way that feels safe and empowering for you. While concrete evidence may be elusive, your feelings and instincts are valid.

Remember that you deserve honesty, respect, and trust in your relationship. Whether that involves having a direct conversation with your partner or making decisions about your future, trust yourself to do what's best for you. If you feel overwhelmed or unsure, seeking support from a therapist or trusted loved ones can be beneficial.