FOOL FOR LOVE

To tell you the truth this is not something new. Discovered on his phone some years ago that he was cheating online using fake Facebook account. Later I discovered this included men and women. Then I discovered he was also making use of dating sites where men are looking for men. Recently the discovering that he was again looking for men and the picture he posted

@Lindie507880 Thats a lot for you to process...especially with a history of it. How do you feel about all of it? Have you discussed it with him?

Yes we did and everytime it's the same cycle over and over again. He would beg for forgiveness,, promise to get help, but never wants to admit to anything. After a while everything just get swept under the mat and I have to forgive and forget!

@Lindie507880 Im straight so i cant relate to wanting another man. However, sexual desires are powerful so I doubt its something he will get help with to 'fix'. Its just something thats part of him. It may have been there for a long time but just kept to himself until he could no longer take it. It sounds like you're at the point where you either accept him or you dont. If you accept him, then that leads to another discussion on how to move forward....either he sticks to only exploring online (maybe he will or maybe he wont), or you allow him to play with other men, or to the extreme you move into an open marriage where you both explore and physically play.

Well for me it's game over. I have tried to work through all of my emotions, but he just don't care enough about me. We are sleeping in separate rooms and he is very happy with the setup. I wanted to grow old with a man next to me, a man who respect and loves me. I don't want to settle for anything less🥺

@Lindie507880 Im sorry to hear its game over, but I can understand your feelings.

@Lindie507880 I’m sorry this has happened to you. You need to get out of that marriage.