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Sexless marriages are often the reasons for disturbed bedrooms in the later years of partnership..

Why is it that men start to fuse off post 50s while the women are in their total prime and want exciting action but unfortunately are either made to cut off the horns in the most unsaid ways or they are questioned about her rapidly increasing social activities.. why do you think the men lobby out there doesn't approve of it while it is the most critical ask of the women in the most craving years of her biological progression?

Feel free to share your views openly or PM...

Much love 💕

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anoderod55 · 61-69, M

My wife lost interest in her 40's 🤷‍♂

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@anoderod55

Did she lose interest in sex or did she lose interest in you?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@Heartlander Could be a little of both . Said she didn't need me that way anymore .

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@anoderod55

So 20 years ago?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@Heartlander Yes 🤔

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@anoderod55

Did talking about it help set up mutually acceptable boundaries? Or make things worse?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@Heartlander Talking didn't help towards me

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@anoderod55

Thanks. My own circumstances is due a progressive medical condition which turned my role into one of caregiver to a very disabled spouse. So a sexless relationship but not necessarily an unhappy marriage. There is happiness and comfort in providing for another’s care and happiness, but still the frustration with no one to blame except fate.

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 so does she seek her needs elsewhere?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane I want her to be happy . So i hope so .

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 shouldn't that be something you both talk about and agree to?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane We have talked . Didn't really agree or disagree . Have talked several times . Think she finally understands it's okay if she wants .

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 is she supposed to tell you about it, or is it to be secret?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane Would like to know some things that are happening . Don't like secrets . ☺

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 did you tell her that? Although my ex was a cheater and had not interested in playing together.

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane I'm trying to get her to a point of talking about what is happening . 🤞 Sorry to hear bout your ex . I don't want my wife to leave , just feel free to explore with others .

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 Is she afraid of how you might react? Or will you giving her permission destroy the illusion that she is a good wife?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane I think that might be part of it . As long as she doesn't go telling others what we have talked about . I feel she will always be a good wife .

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 but, if she has "play dates" there is the chance someone you know may see her. Or she may want to play with a friend of yours, or someone you know. Many times, the spouse is the last one to find out....

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane Couple years ago she had a man the she and her friend worked with . Take them out to eat . Never anything said that i know of . Hopefully she is cautious . If she finds a play mate . 🤞

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 well, no STDs is a good start ;-)

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane Very true and a concern to me . 😲

VeronicaJane

@anoderod55 so is she resistant when you bring the subject up, as in not something she'd entertain, or something to conceal?

anoderod55 · 61-69, M

@VeronicaJane Have to ask questions . No doesn't talk much about . I think most things are phone and internet right now .