Married Couples & Affection

Don't throw stones at me, y'all! I don't know if this is within narcissistic families that I've seen while growing up, or what. But I noticed that when people are either dating or engaged, they're super affectionate, cozy & lovey dovey. Once they get married, they can't stand each other. You never see that (now) married couple hold hands, hug or kiss. They hate each other so much that they don't even sleep in the same room anymore. All they do is argue, fuss & fight for years! They end up hating each other & being the WORST of enemies! But you wonder how they some kind of way have 10 children together.

Just some random thoughts about something I observed.

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SW-User

Familiarity breeds contempt, and in long term relationships, you experience the real person and not the expectations and fantasy.

Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

That doesn't describe everyone, my own parents rarely argued, after my father passed away at 62, mom was 56, she lived to 90 without ever considering another man in her life, I asked her once about it after my sister was trying to get her to consider the idea, she said "Another man, any other man, would be a poor second to your father. I am not interested in entertaining another who would never measure up to what I had." I think today, it is harder to communicate than ever, my wife ignores problems, talking about issues is less important than playing online of playing with her phone.

aradia11 · 61-69, F

This about sums it up except we have dogs no kids

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