Quarterly begging
It's one thing when a low drive person marries a high sex drive person. It's quite another when the low drive person donned a high drive persona in order to get you to the altar, but then reverted to their true personality before the ink was dry on the marriage license. In the few years since the ceremony, I can truly count on all fingers and toes how often we've had sex, and all of it initiated by me.
It's a quarterly ritual. When the absence of sex has become too obvious to ignore, it creates tensions that can't be dismissed. Thus, like being tasked with repairing a leaky roof, the expectation falls upon me to "fix it." I therefore organize the right conditions, set up the romantic boudoir, light the candles and start us off. After each time there are renewed promises with "Next time, I'll initiate....Promise."
Waiting for her to initiate actually has a technical term: celibacy.
Thus my love/hate relationship to sex is a mixed bag. As a high drive person, I enjoy sex a lot, and would like to playfully enjoy it in many ways and in many places. But it also reduces me to the status of a beggar at least once a quarter. Q3 sex was two months ago, and Q4 isn't looking better.
It's a quarterly ritual. When the absence of sex has become too obvious to ignore, it creates tensions that can't be dismissed. Thus, like being tasked with repairing a leaky roof, the expectation falls upon me to "fix it." I therefore organize the right conditions, set up the romantic boudoir, light the candles and start us off. After each time there are renewed promises with "Next time, I'll initiate....Promise."
Waiting for her to initiate actually has a technical term: celibacy.
Thus my love/hate relationship to sex is a mixed bag. As a high drive person, I enjoy sex a lot, and would like to playfully enjoy it in many ways and in many places. But it also reduces me to the status of a beggar at least once a quarter. Q3 sex was two months ago, and Q4 isn't looking better.
51-55, M
