Clandestine Relationship

Hello.

So there is this female who randomly inboxed me recently asking me why I never flirted with her. I'm married and she's single. We've been friends on social media for a while and while she is gorgeous AF, I'm typically not the type to flirt.

We had a discussion and I admitted to her that she's attractive and I know she's had relationships with married men before. I asked her why me and she said that she likes me and wants to have a clandestine Relationship with me. She said our signs (which she believes in) says we'd have explosive sex (corny, I know).

I've never cheated on my wife before and she wanted to meet me to I guess vibe and see where things go from there. Keep in mind she's like 16 years younger that me (I'm 47 and she's 31). I mean she's cool peeps, but this came out of the blue from nowhere lol. We have things in common (were both authors which is how we met, both like Hans Zimmer, and both enjoy each other's conversation).

I don't know. Like I said she's gorgeous and it's not like she's looking for a typical relationship. She also has a partner, but they aren't married. She said she likes the thrill of things and wants to be with someone who would judge her for the situation, which would be a shared thing.

Thoughts, comments? I'm not sure what to think of any of this.

iloveblackbarbie · 46-50, MNew

Thanks all. Your advice has definitely given me a lot to think about. I'll take it for what it's worth and move on from the lady. I was on the fence but there's too much to lose vs a temporary connection.

Richard65 · M

Reading between the lines, you're tempted to have at least one sexual encounter with her. You mentioned a couple of times that she's gorgeous. You're trying to convince us (but really yourself) that it might be interesting to meet her and see the vibe. You're flattered, understandably so, she's gorgeous and younger. But, you're married and even meeting her would effectively be cheating on your wife because you both know it's not a platonic meeting between friends. Don't lie to yourself. You're married and unavailable. You made your choice and your vows already. Nothing good will come of this.

Offthetop · 56-60, M

Just take it as a compliment but don't risk blowing up your life for transient strokes of your ego and other things.