I Need Some Relationship Advice

My wife no longer believes in marriage and wants us to be 'best friends'. We have been togeather for 14 years and married for 9 of them. At first she termed it as wanting an open marriage, which I don't want, and then later explained that she wants her independence, and to be on her own (neither of us have ever lived alone, we went from living with family to living with each other.)

We were planning to move across country (NJ currently) and she still wants me to move along with her...but get a separate appartment someplace nearby.

I don't feel like I can be just her friend. I am still in love with my wife. I want to spend my life with her and grow old with her. That has never changed since the day I proposed. If I go with her, I feel like I will grow to resent her.

I feel like every positive thing in my life has been taken from me, and I did nothing wrong.