I Need Advice On My Relationship

okay so, for the past few weeks, my boyfriend has seriously been making me feel unimportant. He never wants to spend time with me, but will go hang out with his friends for hours at night. he always tells me he has to get up early and hes tired with no money but can go party with whoever. i dont understand why he cant or wont do things with me but for anybody else he is all for it.
he also never wants to come in my house, ever. i dont understand what that is about. just a few minutes ago he got off work and was going to come pick me up, but when i said it would be a few minutes because im doing bank stuff online, he said he was going to go home and take a nap. why couldnt he just hang out here with me for a few minutes? it makes zero sense
maybe i am over thinking or maybe i am insecure but i am genuinely upset and he doesnt seem to care. i asked him if he was happy with me and our relationship and all he said was that he was comfortable. im not totally sure what that is supposed to mean.
im just having a really hard time and i am having trouble communicating to him

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Elisbch · M

Your not hearing the message... When you do, you'll probably get angry and make a different decision.

poprocktears · 26-30, F

@Elisbch what is the message

Elisbch · M

@poprocktears the message I see him sending is that he's not that interested in being a partner with you. It appears he wants to be doing other things than spending quality time with you. Making excuses with the banking you needed to do. If he's acting like this all the time, then don't tell yourself your insecure. You're probably reading it right. I don't think you can change his behavior. Maybe you should try giving him the cold shoulder. That might tell you that if he gets more interested then, he is taking you for granted and losing interest in you. It sucks... But better to know than be strung along and hoping for something that's not going to develop. I'm sorry.... This is what it sounds like to me.

poprocktears · 26-30, F

@Elisbch i have actually considered staying home for a few days without talking to him to see if he notices or says anything

Elisbch · M

@poprocktears use your head not your heart to try to determine where you stand. It won't be easy. If you can use your head more, it might make it easier to get the answers you need... But maybe not want. Be smart... You can do it.