@poprocktears the message I see him sending is that he's not that interested in being a partner with you. It appears he wants to be doing other things than spending quality time with you. Making excuses with the banking you needed to do. If he's acting like this all the time, then don't tell yourself your insecure. You're probably reading it right. I don't think you can change his behavior. Maybe you should try giving him the cold shoulder. That might tell you that if he gets more interested then, he is taking you for granted and losing interest in you. It sucks... But better to know than be strung along and hoping for something that's not going to develop. I'm sorry.... This is what it sounds like to me.

@Elisbch i have actually considered staying home for a few days without talking to him to see if he notices or says anything

@poprocktears use your head not your heart to try to determine where you stand. It won't be easy. If you can use your head more, it might make it easier to get the answers you need... But maybe not want. Be smart... You can do it.

@Zoranna Agreed!

@imLobo idk man he used to be super affectionate and as of a few weeks ago its like he is a different person

@imLobo Umm, she did. Says so in the OP.