I think about things very differently than a lot of women because I'm less conflict avoidant, value harmony less than them and to be brutally honest have a history of pulling stunts like ultimately moving on but pretending to still be in pursuit of the person I WAS interested in before I decided fuck it I like someone else more just to force the difficult conversation that she went out of her way to avoid to which it was like "just kidding, I've found someone else." once It was over.
The thing is I've been mildly irritated at that behavior for so long that just to make a point I'd do something like that.
And why? Well because I have a Growth mindset and I know well that the longer I have to Dream about the possibilities when they are denied to me the more it ultimately hurts, so I'd rather just be told STRAIGHT UP what's what. I don't think it's either meant to be or it isn't, I believe that if you work on things you can overcome difficulties with other people. I'm well aware of why women do it it's just I'm not that guy.
I'm the one who outright will talk about how after YEARS of listening to Feminist when I'm walking down the street to get Snacks I'm paying a FUCKLOAD of attention to the woman walking in front of me ane notice her looking behind her and so just choose to cross the street because She doesn't know how much poetry I have written and statements I've made in the past against rape and the culture that perpetuates us, she doesn't have any way of gauging my sincerity or ANY awareness of my feelings about the topic and it's better to just Relieve her of the discomfort than bother to have an argument.
So I mean honestly I get that some men kill women so they learned to avoid the outright rejection of us and having that convo and ghost or simply go out of thier way to say they're not interested by screening phone calls, etc. But I can handle rejection gracefully. I just wish I was treated with respect in that regard.
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"When is the right time to have a convo like that?"
Pretty much as soon as you realize it.
