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Does your partner make life better?

I feel like everyone I've been with added stress to my life. It's always been more work, the affection and effort dwindle after awhile. I end up depleted yet still expected to carry all the weight and feeling alone.

Do relationships exist where two people put in the effort to keep the spark lit? Do couples help each other and take the pressure off? Has your partner improved your life?
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Achelois · F
I’m single for that reason, my marriage nearly destroyed me, I’ve been on my own for a long time now, taken a long time to heal.


It’s not worth the stress, unless I met someone who’s done the inner work, I won’t risk it.
@Achelois I feel the same, but I'm still healing.
Achelois · F
@ScreamingFox

Keep going, it does get better ❤‍🩹


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Nobody talks about this.

Nobody talks about after you finally heal from a traumatizing relationship.

When you have taken the time to concentrate on yourself and you are finally in a place where you're done healing and you are ready to step out into the dating world again, it's nearly impossible to find someone because you see the red flags in everybody.

You see so many things you're not willing to compromise with because you actually trust your intuition.

You can see when things are an issue with people, and you know you won't be able to get over it later on in that relationship.

So you don't allow your feelings to get in the way of logic and just cut it off before it even gets to that point.

Then you realize how many people aren't actually working on themselves and are just seeking a shallow connection.

They aren't even looking to improve themselves as a partner in a relationship, and they think their perfectly fine the way they are.

So there's no room to grow into a relationship together because they are already set in their ways.

It's a little exhausting at times because you also feel lonely during all of this and that sadness can take a toll on you but you have to remember one thing .....

It's better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less.

~ Cody Bret
Achelois · F
She's carried the weight for too long.

A lot of women have never truly experienced what it feels like to be with a man who genuinely has his life together.

And I’m not just talking about having a job or paying his own bills.

That’s should be the bare minimum.

I’m talking about a man who has structure, vision, discipline, and emotional maturity.

A man who is stable in every sense of the word...mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually.

A man who doesn’t just want to “be with” a woman, but one who’s actively building a life and knows exactly where she fits into it.

The truth is... so many women have carried the weight for so long, they don’t even realize they’re tired.

They’ve been providers. They’ve had their own apartments. Their own cars. They’ve managed bills, raised kids, and still showed up in relationships with more patience, consistency, and love than they were ever given.

Some of them have never known what it feels like to move into a home a man prepared for them... or to drive his car because he wanted to make her morning easier.

They’ve never had the luxury of simply being taken care of, without it being used as leverage or thrown in their face later.

Too many women are used to being the adult in relationships with men who only know how to drain them.

She’s the one keeping the house together, managing the schedules, calming the storms, handling the responsibilities.

And let’s be honest...a lot of men can’t even be bothered to take out the trash without being asked a number times. Let alone protect, provide, and lead.

So when a woman says she’s independent, strong, or doesn’t need a man, it’s not always out of pride....it’s out of survival.

It’s because she’s learned that depending on the wrong man can cost her peace, progress, and years of her life she can never get back.

~ Cody Bret
@Achelois I am alone to survive. I am horrified of what might happen if I let someone in my life.
@Achelois thank you 🖤
Achelois · F
@ScreamingFox

Find a healed man ❤‍🔥
@ScreamingFox Yes, relatable,
unfortunately.
@Achelois

I’m single for that reason, my marriage nearly destroyed me,

same!