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Does one need a significant other?

I wonder about the concept of a significant other. Does family, society, the Bible drive us all into that dilemma of chosing for a life partner or rather the one person to love? Isn't that the real reason why were actually not feeling as being complete?
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
Everyone should be their own person, and not rely on others to take charge or whatever.

However, to find someone who's willing to share their life with you despite of your imperfections, and vice versa, is important for ones worth. Not because one need that person, but because one doesn't want to be without them.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
those are 3 different quetions, society, family and Bible

the divorce rate is a strong indicator that we don't get too much pressure from the first 2. I mean you can't really argue with data. It shows a tolerance for more than 1 partner in life even if their is some nasty whispers and frowning behind your back.

The bible., I am assuming you mean the KJV or the NIV. fun fact their are dozen of bibles including the Lutheran Bible (where Daniel says a Dragon/ how cool is that!) Mormon bible and others. It may sound knit-picking but level setting on which Bible you are referring to may help on questions like this.

But if you do mean KJV or NIV marriage is pro-creation. I don't agree with the concept but I read and got the message. How each church group, and their are over 300 differnt churche groups in the USA and I am not sure what country you are in but propably more than 1. How your church views divorce may be a different question than say how the Eastern Orthodox Catholic Church views is.

the last part of your question quote
real reason why were actually not feeling as being..
. I am sure I understood it what you were asking.

If I had to guess your religious views are driving this question more than family or society. That is pretty personal question but I would have to confess that is the more interesting part of the question to me. How religous people, like yourself (by implication of the question), reconcile marriage, co-habiation, a pro-creation world view and your personal desires.
val70 · 51-55
@robertsnj No, not because my religious views but sanity. I'm going insane not knowing there's indeed the someone out there that I can touch and love. No, not about society out large but this thing in between my ears that's letting me feel hosts. My senses are getting numb with time except for the hope there's indeed someone out there
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Speaking as a Gen-x'er i think that was always the expectation of our generation.
Although, many of us saw our parents marriage dissolve, not sure what made them think our couplings were going to end differently to be honest.

Personally i just think we've all been through so much trauma with industry collapses; company closures; endless periods of boom and bust economics; volatile house pricing; lots of social changes since the start of our working lives, that the idea of a 'together forever' is just not possible.
val70 · 51-55
@Picklebobble2 Don't you think rather that we've not been through enough of the serious hard stuff though? Perhaps there's more of that ahead. I don't really like war and famine and such, but my grandparents loved each other in a ver different way than most people do now
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@val70 That was a very very different era. Back then people didn't have the life expectancy we have today.
The industries that ran our world had already been going the best part of a hundred years and there aren't many of them left today.
We earn more but we're considered worth less.
We're being told we have to work longer and retire later. Then they tell us we haven't paid in enough for our pensions.
Back in your Grandparents generation, the occasional person, when they got old and forgetful, were said to have lost their minds.
These days it happens by the million and we call it Alzheimers or dementia.
Some of that might be down to better understanding; research and diagnosis. But there will be others who wonder if that's down to the way we live life today.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
I think love is crucial to a happy meaningful life. But it doesn't have to be romantic. It can be love for a dog, for your friends, for your family. What matters is we all have someone who makes us a better person, who challenge us, who loves us.
val70 · 51-55
@Queendragonfly I like mine to be able love the same amount back somhowe :) that's rather crucial
tj78610 · 51-55, M
@val70 good luck! I do agree, but let me tell you, users are everywhere.
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
each person is different.
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
val70 · 51-55
@therighttothink50
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=seYikCrWMVg

@val70
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
I find being single unnatural, but necessary because how I've ended up isn't natural and as much as I work to undo that, I don't know I have enough time enough left now to commit again.
val70 · 51-55
@PhilDeep
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
It depends on the person, on the stage of their life, on how you feel about the opinions of those around you. There can be more than one reason for being with a person. At the age of 22 I couldn't live without my wife, but I've been a widower since 2017 and feel no need and no pressure to find another life partner.
SW-User
Speaking scientifically.😀
The brain and nervous system require the attunement and attentiveness of others to assist in development and emotional self-regulation. Humans rely subconsciously on significant others for security, safety and love in order to thrive and have good mental health. 💁‍♂️
val70 · 51-55
tj78610 · 51-55, M
Short answer, no.

Many find, as I do, that even having a spouse is no different than having a roommate. At a certain point you just learn to enjoy the tax benefits and single housing payment. There's nothing more to it.
Bumbles · 51-55, M
Came natural to me. I don’t think monogamy is always natural, though.
val70 · 51-55
@Bumbles Yes, and what isn't it then? It could be much safer

 
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