Can you ever really know your long term partner?

I’m right at the “boom time” of divorces in my peer group. People’s stories are fascinating. Secret drug habits, gambling debts and of course cheating. I’m not talking about myself here. I don’t think I’m in the same boat, but how would you ever know?

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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F

My husband was super transparent with me when we first started dating and i almost left him. He just sounded like such a pig but he was just being open and honest and i had to ask him to stop. He would tell me about his past hookups and what he thought of some women and i didnt need to hear about his 2 threesums. It was too much. Hes shown me he isnt a cheater though. He leaves his phone unlocked but i dont look. He spends a lot of time with me and includes me in everything
We have a good relationship but i still think about the things he has said

Stefanv · 56-60, M

@DarkSideoftheMoon he’s obviously had a good time before meeting you! Do you believe him?!!

DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F

@Stefanv hes not a compulsive liar and i havent caught him in a lie before so i have no reason not to believe him. Sometimes i think its a good thing because he got to have his fun.