I am monogamous
I recently came out of a relationship where my partner (now ex-partner) established a new external romantic connection and I had the decision as to whether I should stay in that situation or not. I had no interest in women other than my partner. As such I made the difficult decision to leave, as it was unhealthy for me to stay, and my partner was not able to disconnect from their new romantic interest.
The reality is, when I was with my partner, I could not imagine wanting or seeking those feelings from anyone else. I was totally disinterested. This isn't about polyamory being uncommon, it's about needs to feel safe in a relationship. A monogamous relationship is, for me, a need, and I will not pursue any kind of relationship with anyone else who desires an open relationship or a polygamous one.
If you are polygamous, I have nothing against you, but please seek relationships with other polygamous people. It's not fair for either of you to sacrifice your core needs.
The reality is, when I was with my partner, I could not imagine wanting or seeking those feelings from anyone else. I was totally disinterested. This isn't about polyamory being uncommon, it's about needs to feel safe in a relationship. A monogamous relationship is, for me, a need, and I will not pursue any kind of relationship with anyone else who desires an open relationship or a polygamous one.
If you are polygamous, I have nothing against you, but please seek relationships with other polygamous people. It's not fair for either of you to sacrifice your core needs.
