I Am Married

I am sorry for your lose.

It will get better, as in more bearable. But it will take time and you will always miss here. A hole in your skyline as it eere.

I'm sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through. I am also very thankful you wrote this.

I too am a wife. 13 years though my husband and I have been together for 20 years. I also have an incurable MPN cancer among may other health conditions.

It pains me to read what you're going through as I think of my own husband and what he is not expressing that he goes through while seeing me go down hill and knowing that either my cancer will take me slowly from him or something else suddenly. It pains me to know that he will have to endure what you are going through and that I will have to break the promise of forever we made to each other.

You have helped give the prospective from a grieving husbands view for me. I'd like to give you the prospective of a wife's view.

Your wife knew you loved her unconditionally. You were there for her from the day you fell in love to the very last moments you shared with her. Dispite any frustration and anger, you were there for her no matter how painful it was to love her and watch and live through losing her.

Even though she is not here to tell you herself, she wouldn't wish you to miss out on moments with family and friends, finding happiness and joy in the little things or even love if it finds you again. Even though she has passed she isn't gone. Every moment you have had together is a part of you. Though all the good and the terrifying, each memory that she charished was with you.

It will take time, a day, hour even minutes at a time. The lose of someone you truely love is a cruel fate to bare. Even tormenting if you face it all alone and isolated. Let your friends and family help you through this when your ready able to be in the company of others. Gradually look for your comfort zone again. Allow yourself the time to grieve but also allow yourself the time to live a life your wife would be happy to see you living.

I know it's only been a few more months now, though I hope your grief has starting to let up.

Experiencing all the seasons and holidays will be hardest the first year.

Ultimately, I try to celebrate the positive of the folks who were close and died. In some cases, I have done or sought out things they wanted as a way to honor them.

Sorry how sad.i lost my brother two years ago.He widowed his wife.they have a son.So sad to lose people you love.