I Am Married

I am married and we love each other and our family but I think we both know we are drifting apart. It’s been 10 years, we aren’t the same people we were yesterday. I can try all I want to take up his hobbies or set up alone time but...what is there to talk about? Nothing fun, always responsibilities. We accepted the others flaws and stopped caring who was right. I think in letting go of that we lost a bit of interest in the other. Lost interest in actively participating. You can tell we are both trying, forcing ourselves every day to go through the motions. The love is there, the need to be wanted and need, the appreciation, respect and adoration are all there. ...I never though I’d say OR feel this but, we have nothing in common any more.

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quantum · 31-35, M

All couples experience difficulty , counseling and communication may be beneficial
Look deep inside your heart before doing anything ask yourself is this relationship worth saving
only you know the answer
Good Luck

SW-User

My marriage was in a similar spot a few years back. It felt like we were just two people living under the same roof. Our lives were all about the kids and work, we had no connection to each other. We turned our relationship around by creating opportunities to spend time together. However, instead of doing the same old things we'd already done together, we explored something new. By doing so, we created a personal experience for the two of us, and allowed us the chance to reconnect.

CareBear420 · 36-40, F

@SW-User We just seem to be in a rut at the moment. The cold weather limits the things we like to do, holiday craziness, extra school and work activities...the list goes on. No one is lying, cheating or any marriage altering circumstances like that. These last few months have been a bit stressful. Add to that children who’s ages are 5,4 and 3 and you can imagine the amounts of energy expended and sleep gained in return.

SW-User

@CareBear420 I do understand. Children are a lot of work, and soon they'll start playing sports or joining band, or choir, maybe all of the above! Lol It seems like your days are all but spent. The best thing I can recommend, is making time for each other. It's something we neglected for too long. It can be hard, and maybe you'll feel a little guilty (my wife did), having someone watch over them. But having a night or two a month, where we could let go and have fun together made a big difference for us.

benhailin · 41-45, M

Sounds like you both are going thru the same.. and probably you can find out a solution together rather than giving it time to drift away and part ways. May be a counsel or a complete break from the usual things that you do might help.. talk it out.. probably list down the things you really want to do.. support each other. Im sure there is a way forward.

melbeacher · 56-60, M

I feel the same way. You are not alone my dear.

zorroo · 56-60, M

This is real life, work, responsibilities, kids, without that we will be in heaven, always there is ups & downs in marriage.
how is your sex life?

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Montanaman · M

You need to rediscover yourselves, together. 🤗💕

melbeacher · 56-60, M

I feel the same way !

Montanaman · M

Hugs 🤗

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