Why are some people turned on by sexual 'Cheating'?

I feel that, for some of us, the social constraints that we have been conditioned to conform to are too restrictive and frankly not natural. They are constructs imposed upon us to separate humanity from the savage beasts of the wild. It is hubris, really, on a grand scale.

I have personally been the lover of many married women over a much greater number of years, most without their husband's knowledge. I first strayed at eight years into my marriage with a very flirtatious married co-worker and over time came into flings and affairs from time to time. Certainly, the taboo plays heavily into the appeal and admittedly early on my own cheating was sex for sex sake (for me and my first lovers).

Over time I came to desire something more fulfilling and came into the company of cheating wives (and even some single women who loved married men) as new lovers in - when possible - long term affairs. The downside to such cheating is that availability to one another was often tenuous at best, so sometimes necessity dictated that they were one-time flings. Still, the appeal was greatly in the proverbial "forbidden fruit", made the sweeter when the appeal for said fruit was strongly mutual.

I am not proud of having cheated but will be unabashedly open about the experience and, in this case, the strong appeal. There is a thrill to being intimate with someone new in a relationship unfettered by the day to day at home. Having been the first extramarital lover to a few women I truly did discover so many facets of what makes men and women love cheating so much.