I Live In a Sexless Marriage

After years, YEARS of begging my husband to go to the doctor, because I do believe that part of the problem was physical, he finally went. His bloodwork results are starting to trickle in and surprise, surprise, surprise, he has extremely low testosterone and vitamin D levels. On the one hand, I am happy that he will start feeling better with treatment, but on the other hand I know that the emotional damage he has done to me is the far bigger problem. I feel so, so frustrated. And really pissed off.

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Newfrommars · 41-45, M

Did they explain reason for low levels?

LipstickandHeels · 51-55, F

Not yet. He has an appointment to discuss with his doctor next week. I am certain a big part of it is weight gain, which then becomes a viscous cycle as both D and testosterone go down when you are overweight, then their being low makes you gain weight, then they drop lower, etc, etc, etc.

Newfrommars · 41-45, M

@LipstickandHeels: oh boy. That sucks.
Him not being intimate the other underlaying reason not just alone the testerone or D. How about work and family stress and or any incident?

I have gone through similar situation. Perhaps something we can talk about on PM