I Live In a Sexless Marriage

After years, YEARS of begging my husband to go to the doctor, because I do believe that part of the problem was physical, he finally went. His bloodwork results are starting to trickle in and surprise, surprise, surprise, he has extremely low testosterone and vitamin D levels. On the one hand, I am happy that he will start feeling better with treatment, but on the other hand I know that the emotional damage he has done to me is the far bigger problem. I feel so, so frustrated. And really pissed off.

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Rambler · M

The emotions are always the bigger problem...wishing you healing.

LipstickandHeels · 51-55, F

I can understand not being interested in sex, but I can't get past him not being interested in me, just as a person. I have come to recognize, through the years and years of this, that I have a much higher need for emotional connection than he does. I need conversation, and even non-sexual touch - hand-holding, hugs, a kiss goodbye - in a way that he simply doesn't. And so when we were having sex (way back when) it was the one way I was getting my emotional fulfillment.

OzDiver · 61-69, M

@LipstickandHeels: Oh boy, I know EXACTLY what you mean. A kiss, a touch, a hand hold, goes such a long way towards acknowledging you.