Is it essential to serve a man as a wife?

I grew up watching my mum serve my father but resent doing it especially when she'd finally sit down and he'd say he wanted either salt or hot pepper sauce.

Whereas I watched my grandparents help each other some nights my grandmother would cook other nights my grandfather would reheat left overs but my grandfather and I would always set the table.

I am struggling a little whereby I don't believe any one person should serve, I've tried to implement a tradition whereby we share duties so my partner will serve me food if I'm dealing with baby and vice versa.
But there's no preference on meat or anything in particular. We pretty much just serve and if the person wants a bit more they may get up and help themselves.

It's not about "serving"

Do you think this influences the way a relationship goes?

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dale74 · M

Marriage should be. It's a 100% service from both people to each other. When you get married, your life is no longer. It's your life, you have now dedicated your life to that.Other person.

In marriage the I and Me should die become us and we

Both people in a marriage should put the other person before themselves.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@dale74 it's hard for me. Because I think I definitely did try to put my partner first.

I don't think the way I treated him was disrespectful. I was treating him as my equal.

dale74 · M

@Mellowgirl both should put the other before themselves

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@dale74 unfortunately even if I was doing that he put his family members above me. I felt like a second class citizen.
But we're not married so thats probably why.