Is it essential to serve a man as a wife?

I grew up watching my mum serve my father but resent doing it especially when she'd finally sit down and he'd say he wanted either salt or hot pepper sauce.

Whereas I watched my grandparents help each other some nights my grandmother would cook other nights my grandfather would reheat left overs but my grandfather and I would always set the table.

I am struggling a little whereby I don't believe any one person should serve, I've tried to implement a tradition whereby we share duties so my partner will serve me food if I'm dealing with baby and vice versa.
But there's no preference on meat or anything in particular. We pretty much just serve and if the person wants a bit more they may get up and help themselves.

It's not about "serving"

Do you think this influences the way a relationship goes?

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Realifecuckold · 61-69, M

I think you are looking for balance, and respect in your relationship.

I do all the cooking because I like to cook. We leave culture and tradition out of our relationship. I cook and set the table, I serve dinner, and I clean up afterward. Just because I like to rule over the kitchen.

I am sorry that you might not feel supported, but I think a lot of couples struggle with their roles. I think a lot of husbands expect their wives to take on a lot of things domestically.

I do a lot around the house and I find that it reflects well in my wife's attitude toward me.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Realifecuckold that's really sweet and I'm really happy that you have found a comfortable balance that works for you both.

I do want balance and respect in my relationship.
That is what I try to give alongside love and the all the other perks that come from being with me. I've never claimed to be perfect, I have warts too.
I just need those accepted too you know.
❤