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Feeling like a loved possession, not a loved wife

Poll - Total Votes: 40
yes, true love would not be angered at quality time together actually he should have wanted it too
no, someone can truly love you but not want or care about quality time together
Love doesnt intentionally hurt and dismiss their partner like its nothing
Sounds like a control tactic because only his needs matter
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hello community, I want to share a experience i had today with my husband and would like some thoughts, opinions, advice on! I have been married less than a year. We lost our transportation months ago, and basically only spend time together in front of the tv..today, I asked my husband if we could be in the living room to spend some quality time playing a board game or cards and not in front of television (just for a little bit) than watch tv or play video games. He went to the store to get a case of monsters, so i thought nothing of opening the last one in fridge- he went off yelling and degrading me. I made breakfast than asked if we could play a game downstairs a little he said because I drank his cold monster that he wanted to stay in bedroom watching tv - hours passed and I remained in living room because tbh im extremely sick of only being in our bedroom and time is always in front of tv. He came down stairs yelling at me again because i did not go to bedroom to watch tv with him and because I didnt that he was going to go back to room and play on his video games, dismissing me. I had to take my daughter to hospital and ordered a uber to go, he asked for my uber account info, which i gave him but i felt hurt how he dismissed me and yelled/cussed me that i did not give him a kiss before leaving- upon reaching hospital he texted me harsh words for not taking pic of uber driver with plate number and he did not want to spend any time at all with me when I got back home. When i got back home he continued to watch shows and play video games, not once apologized for cussing me yelling at me, gave me no time at all on his day off. He avoided how i felt than around 10 pm he comes downstairs to scream at me again for not being in bedroom and threatened to block me which he did turned off location and said he will not be speaking to me at all when hes working ( he is a driver so we usually talk on phone while hes working) i told him how dismissed, and crappy i felt - however he just yelled and cussed at me and called me names.. his communication has never been healthy he usually yells and only his voice is heard so communication like that only escalates. But i never asked him before to spend some quality time with me “without” television !! but he chose television the first time i did and used minor things he didnt like as excuse to be mad and stay on tv all day/night. Today, I did not try to be heard as i learned he only yells and im not getting into loud yelling battle to try to be heard - something like this seems so simple if both partners talk respectfully and both to be heard, so im often unheard. I am confused and conflicted.
If someone truly loves you would they give up television for “a little bit “ to play a board game or just connect with wife if she asked, OR is wife a big selfish baby that should dismiss the need for some quality time and tolerate because his wants are more important
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JackJames · M
This is a hard one to judge. The reason I say that is we don’t see him 24/7. It’s not just the way he acts with you, though this doesn’t look good, it’s also the way he talks about you to people when you’re not around.
Sunnyday777 · 46-50, FNew
@JackJames i dont think he does he stays to himself - sometimes i have in the past snapped after taking his mentally abuse so long and I started fighting back physically by body slamming him, pushing him and he did it back to me. I stopped and try to isolate or just say how that makes me feel but my feelings stopped mattering to him or he would not neglect and treat them as invisible or just bs. But i did over hear him telling his mom i abused him, but he never told her how much and long he would mentally abuse me spitting all over my face while yelling cruel things. In a conflict or confrontation or anything against his idea results in rage and anger not a calm discusión he doesnt wanna hear anything but his own voice sadly- it is his only flaw but it is one that will break us if it continues