Is marriage ever the same after infidelity?
Can things ever go back to being the same?
31-35, F
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WhateverWorks · 36-40
Not really. From everything I read on the topic and everyone I’ve talked to, the marriages that survive infidelity in a lot of ways are starting from scratch with hopefully a better foundation and more effort than the first go. The deciding factor is often whether the two people have a good feelings about their relationship anymore we’re both people believe it is worth saving, whether the cheater is willing to do whatever it takes to redeem themselves, and whether the person who was cheated on can muster compassion for the cheater’s reasons.
Often the cheater feels justified, so there’s only so much they are willing to put up with from the person they hurt or they already weren’t that invested in the marriage anymore, hence the cheating.
Often the person who was cheated on doesn’t consider the cheaters reasons understandable.
Sometimes one person can’t forgive the other or ultimately both people can’t forgive each other.
It’s a very hard for both people to heal from together.
Often the cheater feels justified, so there’s only so much they are willing to put up with from the person they hurt or they already weren’t that invested in the marriage anymore, hence the cheating.
Often the person who was cheated on doesn’t consider the cheaters reasons understandable.
Sometimes one person can’t forgive the other or ultimately both people can’t forgive each other.
It’s a very hard for both people to heal from together.