Justpeaceandlove · 61-69, F
Thank you for sharing your story. So many people feel this way, women as well as man. I don't know why I never stayed in relationships I was not happy in. The only one I wanted I had for a very short time with before he passed away.
There are ups and downs in every relationship and in not having a relationship. I only know myself, I can not be around anyone who puts me down and doesn't see what they themselves are contributing or not contributing. Maybe separate counseling. It worked for me.
I would love to be in a relationship where I am loved and respected for who and what I am and do. And if I can't have that I'd rather live by myself. But that's just me.
I hope things work out for you someday. Until then know you are not the put downs you hear from your wife.
I've always live by "will there's a will there's a way". Not easy at all but so much more peaceful.
Much love and happiness I wish for you.
There are ups and downs in every relationship and in not having a relationship. I only know myself, I can not be around anyone who puts me down and doesn't see what they themselves are contributing or not contributing. Maybe separate counseling. It worked for me.
I would love to be in a relationship where I am loved and respected for who and what I am and do. And if I can't have that I'd rather live by myself. But that's just me.
I hope things work out for you someday. Until then know you are not the put downs you hear from your wife.
I've always live by "will there's a will there's a way". Not easy at all but so much more peaceful.
Much love and happiness I wish for you.
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Justpeaceandlove · 61-69, F
@MrAnderson: I understand what you're saying. I just wish there were easy answers. It's pretty much deciding how happy you are and then trying to work it out and if it doesn't work then doing something that you've never done before fortunately
MrAnderson · 56-60, M
@Justpeaceandlove: i totally agree. My kids are young...and my wife has lost her job, so leaving right now is just not something i feel in my heart i can do. I believe in the vows i read...good times and bad. I just wish...that i could handle them better. I have depression...and its just getting worse
Justpeaceandlove · 61-69, F
@MrAnderson: I'm very sorry you are going through that. I'm no psychologist but I bet she too is going through her own stuff. That in no way diminishes yours though. There's all kinds of emotions probably going on. Even in your kids I bet. You sharing yours will help you to get through it. If she's keeping hers bottled up that's where the anger is probably coming from and taking it out on you. I had a lot of help in my life from all kinds of "professionals" and others. But you know what the professionals can only help if they've been through tough situations. And I don't mean trying to find a job out of college. ;).
You know in your heart what you need to do, so does she, just have to find the courage and support to do it. I admire you for sharing.
You know in your heart what you need to do, so does she, just have to find the courage and support to do it. I admire you for sharing.
Peaches · F
Staying could also damage your kids, maybe marriage counseling would help. In "The Perfect Storm" he was alone with Christine on his mind, he told her there is only love, she had a dream of him telling her that and shared that dream with his mom after he had drowned. I loved that movie. We all see things differently, we sometimes grow apart. We must be brave when it comes to life changing decisions, your heart will tell ya what to do. 💔☮
Peaches · F
@MrAnderson: Is she a Virgo, just wondered, ha! Yes, that kind of personality would drive me up the wall, my sister is a lot like that. She moved to San Fransisco to be near her son, yaaaayyy!
MrAnderson · 56-60, M
aradia11 · 61-69, F
I can understand how you feel. It sounds like your dealing with a Passive Aggressive. No one can endure them.
I stay in my marriage due to finances also because...Of our 3 loving dogs. If I left there would be no one to take care of them.
My husband is disabled n on SS. It pays little. I am the one working. HE has severe arthritis and is in pain daily. He barely sleeps at night. This disrupts me also.
He never wants to go anywhere or do anything... Breakfast n shopping are abt it!
I was use to having a fun filled life now it is dismal.
The sad part is he lives in his own HEAD!!! He wants to pretend everything vis so great... can't see I am unhappy vacant talk communication causes more problems. And its screwed up!!
Yes life can be a complication yet we seem to find the endurance.
Hope you find some Peace...
I stay in my marriage due to finances also because...Of our 3 loving dogs. If I left there would be no one to take care of them.
My husband is disabled n on SS. It pays little. I am the one working. HE has severe arthritis and is in pain daily. He barely sleeps at night. This disrupts me also.
He never wants to go anywhere or do anything... Breakfast n shopping are abt it!
I was use to having a fun filled life now it is dismal.
The sad part is he lives in his own HEAD!!! He wants to pretend everything vis so great... can't see I am unhappy vacant talk communication causes more problems. And its screwed up!!
Yes life can be a complication yet we seem to find the endurance.
Hope you find some Peace...
MrAnderson · 56-60, M
aradia11 · 61-69, F
Understand.. If I ever said how I felt..he would be so taken back!! Hum the illusionary!!
afreshstart77 · 61-69, M
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sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
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