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Marrying again ..hmmmm?

I recent went out for a lovely meal with a friend, weve been close friends since we were 12.
Anyhoo due to past lockdowns and everything they entailed. Was a much needed catch up.

The dinner & a live Jazz evening to come. are a much needed catch up, and a lovely prelude to a 4 day singles break weve booked for September (馃槉Yay its only around the corner)

Anyhoo .. on and off weve both been online dating (for our sins lol) she currently trying on the sly to match make me with a man she met at speed dating, who wasn't her type ..although suddenly pulling his photo up, at dinner . I finally twigged that she thinks he will be great for me.
I've decided to play thick to it... and agreed that she could invite him to our live jazz night next week hahaha.

Well as we were chatting , the issue of remarrying came up. After my divorce 3 yrs ago, I wasn't so sure .. but recently I have gone from knowing its not something I want now.

Because while I am and always will be a one man woman, As a single mature woman in my late 50's I really cant see the value in trying the knot again. I see more value in enjoying nice companionship instead. Nothing concreted to whatever .. just a lovely friendship.

Also there are practical reasons for my not wanting to marry at this moment in my life I still have 2 teens at home. It takes a long while to get to know if a man is suitable and trustworthy enough to move into our home and become a step parent .

Soon enough they will be older adults and able to live away from home as independent adults .

I would actually like to spare them any potential involvement with a step father.

I have concluded that Yes I would like to remarry - because I believe marriage adds many strengths to a couples relationship . However I am planning for marriage after age 65 + .

With kids flown nest and enjoyed many years of singledom the ,I cant think of a more perfect time to think serious & long-term,

My friend on the other hand disagrees and believes marriage is the best and only solution to being single hmmmm.
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Adaydreambeliever56-60, F
well both of you are right and both are wrong.. what I mean is.. what's right for you may not be right for her, and what's right for you when you are 65 may not be right for you now..

What I can tell you is... my nan remarried when she was in her 70s... and I know a friend who met the love of her life when she was over 65...

I see nothing wrong in your plans
Kae2056-60, FVIP
@Adaydreambeliever Your absolutely right. See shes never had a long marriage or relationship.

So for her its almost been an ambition, for all her accolades, & she has many to her name.

Marriage & companionship are the one thing that has eluded her.

Where as me, after 3 marriages .

Ive more or less been married all teen & adult life. The longest Ive ever been single is now solidly for around 18mths.

So I know where the value is in being married & its not something I want to do again ..just yet.

Your right we have different wants & needs.