happycamper5050. I have made a couple of statements approving open marriages i have since changed my mind

You have to be mature in an open relationship....IF you are married to a controller or stalker it will never work....If the couple is mature an open marriage will work.. If one is not mature to handle it he or she will be in constant competition with the other.....Separation is the only way to freedom of having your own lover, make your own decisions about your lover. If one is not mature then forget it.