I am not so sad about my married life but I should be so much responsible after getting married

I didn't knew my husband parents were in so much loans and debts. They even didn't made effort to pay those in 15 years. I am so much against being in debts, since I am part of this family, I started clearing all these debts and I am even successful to clear 70% of the debts but I have to forget my desire, I left drinking milk and eating junk food and buying new clothes. I thought I will get someone who will be responsible for me after marriage but here I should be responsible for whole family.

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anythingoes477 · 31-35, M

There is a very thin line between them accepting your help...and using you. It's kind to help them at your own expense but what have they learned about personal responsibility?? Nothing. So to them the consequence of stupid spending habits and then facing the music about paying their own debts is........who cares. Spend....run up bills...she will pay it back for us. It's ok to help........it's not Ok to become a doormmat in the process.