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sensualsex · 31-35, M
Where are you from?
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@HappyCuckold Possibly a great deal, if she comes from a culture where it’s not easy or safe to divorce. I’ve started asking that too, before just saying “leave him (or her)”.

SageWanderer · 70-79, M
Whenever you realize that it’s taking a toll on who you are. If you have to change to keep it together it’s time to move on.
Cofuzion · F
@SageWanderer
It's all I'm thinking about now, maybe it's time.
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
@Cofuzion All I can tell you is I saw what it was doing to our child. And I was becoming a shadow of myself.
Mguinm · 51-55, F
@Cofuzion I agree time to move on.
ShadowSister · 46-50, F
It's hard to stay in a difficult marriage. But a relationship that survives the hard times is sweeter and more valuable than one that has never been tested.

You can't work on your partner, but you can work on you. If he will agree to counseling, that's the best. But if not, see your own counselor for ways you can reduce conflict on your end. It will be one of the most difficult things you will ever do in your life, but I promise you that if you make the investment, you will not regret it.
Cofuzion · F
@ShadowSister
Thank you for your advice.
ShadowSister · 46-50, F
@Cofuzion Best of luck 😘
SW-User
I think when your life is unhappy everyday and you can't see it changing then it's time to go..what's the point in living that way?
Steve42 · 56-60, M
If you are both still willing to get it to work I'd say go to counseling, spend more time listening to each other, go back to the things that attracted you to each other the first time, don't sweat the small stuff. Divorce is more painful and lonely causing more pain then your current level.
Cofuzion · F
@Steve42
That's true, we have been so busy with our career. Spending less and less time together.
trackman11 · 61-69, M
I hope something wonderful happens for you and your husband. Fighting and leaving are both bad options and I am sure you feel trapped between it. However unlikely I will wish for the best.
Cofuzion · F
Thank you, like you said, I do feel trapped but I'm also torn. The relationship is now toxic but a part of me still wants to make it work. @trackman11
trackman11 · 61-69, M
@Cofuzion I can imagine that is a very difficult decision. I’m not offering advice since I know so little but I do hope whatever choice you make you get some affirmation that it’s the right one. Sorry for intruding without knowledge though.
I’m drawn to this question for some reason. I’ve no idea why. Maybe to offer words of comfort... I don’t know
Cofuzion · F
@Quoththeraven Maybe you ha e been there before.
I always sorta figured that was one of those things that people just knew.
Cofuzion · F
@stound
Letting go is not easy either.
@Cofuzion wouldn't suggest that it is. just something like trying to help someone who's drowning; you reach a point where you just can't help anymore and you have to take care of yourself. I'd assume I know when that point arrives with swimming... I'd assume others know when it arrives with other aspects.
If you are always fighting, it's time. Save yourself the stress and wasted time.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
Try going through couples therapy
Cofuzion · F
@Beatbox34
I think that's the only path to take now.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Cofuzion I'm not telling you to leave him. I won't tell that. The thing is it's easier to leave always but I don't want you to think "what if" we could've worked it out.

There is nothing that can't be solved by talking things over at least in a relationship or marriage. If it gets harder and things don't change then at least you'll have a satisfaction that you did your best and tried to make it work.
What was it about them that made you want to get married in the first place? Is it possible to communicate about your concerns? It would be helpful to talk... Maybe with the help of a professional therapist, who can help mediate and direct the conversation.
Cofuzion · F
@lovelywarpedlemon
At this stage, a professional is needed.
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Cofuzion · F
@HappyCuckold
We have both voiced divorce during heated arguments. Being in a relationship is hard work.
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Cofuzion · F
@HappyCuckold
Thank you
3Dogmatic · 46-50, M
It is hard to say. In one hand, life is short and happiness bears a premium. On the other hand, you cannot put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Cofuzion · F
@3Dogmatic
I'm exhausted from the fighting. We are at each other's throats all the time.
SW-User
Only when there is no love between you both. But if love exist than better to clear the issues
Cofuzion · F
@SW-User
I still love him but I'm exhausted.
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Cofuzion · F
@SW-User
That's an option we are exploring. That would be the last stop.
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SW-User
That's so sad I don't get while dating this doesn't come up
Cofuzion · F
Life was so wonderful when we were dating. @SW-User
HifromJim · M
Time to move on, it isn't a good environment to live with.
Cofuzion · F
It's becoming toxic. @HifromJim
If you are unhappy then move on
Cofuzion · F
@ExperienceDLT
Moving on is not always that easy.
@Cofuzion it's better than staying in a marriage that your not happy in
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
Just remember that being single has its issues too.
SW-User
Does he hurt you?
Cofuzion · F
@SW-User
Mentally with words.
SW-User
That’s a shite stage to get to
SW-User
It is time to leave.

 
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