I Live In a Sexless Marriage

You know what bugs me... that stinking 5 Love Languages mess! I’ve been married 30 years.. the longevity has nothing to do with a love language. When you TELL someone what you want or need ... they should comprehend that LANGUAGE. ... so many people have said ‘maybe you have different love languages & you just need to understand his’.. Well, to all the men out there who are like my husband & have a gift giving language... we don’t give a crap about gifts if that’s ALL YOUR GIVING!
Ok.. rant over. Thank you & goodnight.

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chaoticdreams · 46-50, M

You aren't alone with what you are feeling. My wife and I still have sex, but it surely isn't as often as I want and she doesn't do certain things I have asked her for on several occassions; primarily because she hates doing them across the board with anyone. So I only have a love language, I suck at gift giving, and it bothers her a lot; so guys some women do give a fuck about gifts. I have slowly gotten better but I am still regretfully bad at giving gifts.

Geez you can't have it all; you are opposite my wife!

It's like my wife, we have sex missionary and its all soft and loving; then one day she tells me she wants it fast, hard, wet, raunchy, and raw. So I oblidge her and then she accuses me of cheating on her because, "I never give it to her porno style". ROFL... so here is the thing you ought to be happy the guy thinks about you as much as he seems to with gift giving and cheat like everyone else or buy a really nice dildo or vibrator and use it a lot :)

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@chaoticdreams haha... I knew someone would bring that up about at least he gives gifts.... the thing is.. I don’t want them. It’s like ‘yeah, your husband always gives you flowers on your birthday & all I get is sex’.., I’m like, ‘do you want my flowers?’ Lol

chaoticdreams · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery I'll be happy to give you all the sex you want ;) - keep the flowers

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@chaoticdreams ha... thanks, but I love my husband & without love.., I can’t do that... well, ya just can’t pleadd me, right? 😂

chaoticdreams · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery I can respect that; some women need an emotional connection in order to have sex with someone. Personally I never have and yes I could please you ;)