I Live In a Sexless Marriage

You know what bugs me... that stinking 5 Love Languages mess! I’ve been married 30 years.. the longevity has nothing to do with a love language. When you TELL someone what you want or need ... they should comprehend that LANGUAGE. ... so many people have said ‘maybe you have different love languages & you just need to understand his’.. Well, to all the men out there who are like my husband & have a gift giving language... we don’t give a crap about gifts if that’s ALL YOUR GIVING!
Ok.. rant over. Thank you & goodnight.

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elyay2001 · 46-50, M

Two things.

1. Yes. Marriage is about supporting your partner, so if sex is important to one it should be as a couple.

2. Time can remove a sex drive. Sorry, but it can happen over time. Not sure what to tell you.

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@elyay2001 yes, time removes it & replaces it with bitterness.

elyay2001 · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery Sex drive can drop in men. Have you tried to just take care of him? How does he respond?

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@elyay2001 He’s not interested. We’ve been doing this dance for a few years now. Thanks for the input

elyay2001 · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery Ask him to go to the doctor for a check up for low testosterone. If he doesn’t want to, then.... sorry.

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@elyay2001 ph.. he’s got that. It’s a good excuse, so why would he want to fix it? Lol

elyay2001 · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery Easy. Ever been depressed and not wanted to do something? Low T is the same thing. Correct it and welcome to sex town.

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@elyay2001 Right..,, but he doesn’t take his testosterone. I’m just fighting a losing battle. I know.

elyay2001 · 46-50, M

@MsMontgomery Well then, he is making his problem your problem. Ask him this question, and be honest about it. Ask him if he minds if you have sex with others if he isn’t interested in giving it to you.

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@elyay2001 Done that.., it got me a gps monitor put on my car... I’ve discovered that the sexless spouse won’t let anyone else play with their toy. They like having the toy there.. just put on the shelf.

melbeacher · 56-60, M

@MsMontgomery Thats bull crap !