I Am In An Arranged Marriage
[b]HELP![/b] (LOL ...or not)
Ok, I've already told about this but here's an update.
I don't support marriage, it means nothing to me. I prefer a couple, I say a couple but I also accept non-linear families so..., Let's say a couple, a couple of people who love each other and they don't need a piece of paper to confirm it just cause we still live in a medieval society...
Anyway.
I was proposed to be one half of an arranged marriage. The "wanna be wife" is a person from abroad who lived some years in my country too, Italy. Her Italian family tried to adopt her when she was just a girl, but they won't able to be so only cause of real corrupted system of her home-country and then it happened some shit even here.
They were (and still are) a good family with no economical problems at all, etc while, the opposite, she's really poor in her own country.
So if she lives here, with a visa, she would be able to find a decent job, to complete her studies she was forced to interrupt because of poverty etc. But her country and mine won't let her do so!
So after years of attempts, one person working at the embassy just told her, that in the end, her only chance is probably to marry an Italian person. I know her since both of us were young and she asked this help to me.
I really want her to have the chance of having a decent life, cause she deserve it, but my answer should have been a NOPE.
So finally she's here again and talking face to face is not so easy at all to say this nope. Also her Italian family is trying to push me to do it, I don't like when someone try to di it with me and generally they will get the opposite effect but I'm very rational in this case...
What do I have to lose with this marriage? I suppose nothing, it's not only about the marriage, I don't have so much to lose so maybe it's a good thing to help a friend in needing.
I'm asking this here mostly because of the anonymous thing of the internet, I'm not even sure if I must ask the opinion of some friend or even tell them about this whole thing, cause it's such weird.
What do you think about it? What do you think I should do?
Ok, I've already told about this but here's an update.
I don't support marriage, it means nothing to me. I prefer a couple, I say a couple but I also accept non-linear families so..., Let's say a couple, a couple of people who love each other and they don't need a piece of paper to confirm it just cause we still live in a medieval society...
Anyway.
I was proposed to be one half of an arranged marriage. The "wanna be wife" is a person from abroad who lived some years in my country too, Italy. Her Italian family tried to adopt her when she was just a girl, but they won't able to be so only cause of real corrupted system of her home-country and then it happened some shit even here.
They were (and still are) a good family with no economical problems at all, etc while, the opposite, she's really poor in her own country.
So if she lives here, with a visa, she would be able to find a decent job, to complete her studies she was forced to interrupt because of poverty etc. But her country and mine won't let her do so!
So after years of attempts, one person working at the embassy just told her, that in the end, her only chance is probably to marry an Italian person. I know her since both of us were young and she asked this help to me.
I really want her to have the chance of having a decent life, cause she deserve it, but my answer should have been a NOPE.
So finally she's here again and talking face to face is not so easy at all to say this nope. Also her Italian family is trying to push me to do it, I don't like when someone try to di it with me and generally they will get the opposite effect but I'm very rational in this case...
What do I have to lose with this marriage? I suppose nothing, it's not only about the marriage, I don't have so much to lose so maybe it's a good thing to help a friend in needing.
I'm asking this here mostly because of the anonymous thing of the internet, I'm not even sure if I must ask the opinion of some friend or even tell them about this whole thing, cause it's such weird.
What do you think about it? What do you think I should do?
