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HoldInwardly · 41-45, M
How about talking about exchanging ideas about what "to be a lover" and "to be a friend" really means to each of us?
To me, a real friend shares deep levels of understanding and emotion which I only want to share with people that I can really trust. As a lover, on the other hand, I wish to share deep emotions, desires, as well as levels of trust and being that are so deep that they go way beyond words. My greatest desire would be to combine the two types of relationship, but I've found that difficult to accomplish. So I have a few close friends on the one hand and I am committed to a deep love relationship on the other.
Both types of relationship take much time. But this is "quality" and "super quality time", and so I wish to be a really good friend and even a better lover, a person who has time and emotional availability for both types of relationship. If ever I have to chose to spend time with one rather than the other type of relationship, there is no question that the "lover" relationship goes first.
To me, a real friend shares deep levels of understanding and emotion which I only want to share with people that I can really trust. As a lover, on the other hand, I wish to share deep emotions, desires, as well as levels of trust and being that are so deep that they go way beyond words. My greatest desire would be to combine the two types of relationship, but I've found that difficult to accomplish. So I have a few close friends on the one hand and I am committed to a deep love relationship on the other.
Both types of relationship take much time. But this is "quality" and "super quality time", and so I wish to be a really good friend and even a better lover, a person who has time and emotional availability for both types of relationship. If ever I have to chose to spend time with one rather than the other type of relationship, there is no question that the "lover" relationship goes first.