I Am In a Long Distance Relationship

Ok so we made it to 4 months but I kind of ended it 2 days ago. I thought he still had feelings for his ex but it was me getting a trigger and freaking out as my last serious boyfriend used to have affairs and I only found out about them after 2 years. Not sure if my heart can handle love and potential heartache at this stage. I was probably enjoying the long distance thing with my new one cause it kept him far away. I've known this one for 30 years and he's a bit upset cause he's introduced me to his parents and buying a house this year for us. I was going to move all the way to him in 2 years. I think I love him.
I've been so hurt in the past where I couldn't eat or talk for 3 months. I thought I was going to die from a broken heart
Not sure what to do

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TheBatman · 26-30, M

well my gf of almost 3 year cheated on me

Florence · 46-50, F

What an awful feeling and sorry to hear that. What are you going to do?

TheBatman · 26-30, M

No idea , its been 3 months , i am broken . A month back i texted her she didnt even see it .

Spinoza · M

@TheBatman: She totally saw it but chose not to respond. My LDR ex of 2 years (who cheated on me) dumped me a few months back for someone else. We were suppose to be closing the gap this month too. It's terrible how people can be but sometimes these things need to happen. If she's straight up ignoring you- then you may have dodged a bullet.

TheBatman · 26-30, M

@Hakphin: she doesn't even care to read the messsge she block me whenever I try to contact , what awefull is I was saving money to meet her and she knew and I got my passport just to meet her , and she said 2 month ago before we broke that she would never cheat on me and as soon as she found a guy she blocked me everywhere

Spinoza · M

That's ridiculous. Dude, I know exactly what you're going through. I'd say that it's pretty safe to assume that she wanted the easier route and took the cowards way of dealing with it. She blocked you because she can't face you and wants to move on. Try to be thankful that you dodged a bullet, focus on rebuilding yourself, and plan to use that passport in another way. It's a good thing to have.

TheBatman · 26-30, M

@Hakphin: hoping so , I am the first guy in my family to have a passport haha , it is just hurtfull we put so much effort in relationship , and she found a guy and abandoned me and she casually said I never wanted to try , so why would she put a effort if we don't have future , you don't even eat pig meat or beef (o eat chicken and said I would try beef for her ( Hindu don't eat beef )she said no he eat meat I love Mexican guy you are Indian which she noticed after 3 years