Is he no longer interested in me?

Met a guy , really hit it off , talked for a few weeks.
Lovely messages back and forth. He mentioned he is INFJ.
He works in international development.
He is very attractive.

After a few weeks he suddenly says that with the Ukraine war he needs to travel and urgently take care of a project.

That's where things got different.

He replies to my text messages very short and claims to have had no rest.
He doesn't take any initiative by himself anymore.

He didn't ghost me though because ghosting would imply no longer answering.

He just stopped taking initiative all together.
While he was the one who was very eager to get to know me , those first few weeks.

Could it be that his work really consumes all his time for this last two weeks or is it an excuse to not say '' I'm no longer interested? "

He knew everything important about me by the way.
So I didn't hide anything.

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hartfire

Saying he works in "international development" is a bit vague. It can cover anything from NGOs to UN, WHO, or big corporations. It could involve a wide range of different kinds of training and experience.

Did he ever specify exactly who he works for, where and what project he's on right now? Did he ever tell you his educational background and how he got into his current work?

If his work has a link to the Ukraine, then yes, you could safely assume that he is genuinely busy managing a crisis.

If he never specified, then it might mean he created a gateway for both easy exit and keeping you on hold.

Enthusiasms are common in the beginnings of relationships. It's also possible that showing enthusiasm could be part of a ruse to hook someone.

The only thing I can suggest is to be ultra cautious with any relationship that starts online. Trust nothing till you see the proof in real life.