Is he no longer interested in me?

Met a guy , really hit it off , talked for a few weeks.
Lovely messages back and forth. He mentioned he is INFJ.
He works in international development.
He is very attractive.

After a few weeks he suddenly says that with the Ukraine war he needs to travel and urgently take care of a project.

That's where things got different.

He replies to my text messages very short and claims to have had no rest.
He doesn't take any initiative by himself anymore.

He didn't ghost me though because ghosting would imply no longer answering.

He just stopped taking initiative all together.
While he was the one who was very eager to get to know me , those first few weeks.

Could it be that his work really consumes all his time for this last two weeks or is it an excuse to not say '' I'm no longer interested? "

He knew everything important about me by the way.
So I didn't hide anything.

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RebelFox · 36-40, F

If I were you I’d be cool. Take some of the pressure off yourself and if it fades away, kiss it goodbye. Or you could ask him straight up. Have you met yet?

BreakfastGirl · 36-40, F

@RebelFox I try to be cool.
I told him " I hope you get some rest and good luck with the project " and things like that to make it seem as if I'm cool with it but internally it's difficult.
First he bonds with me like mad , then interest goes to zero.
All of a sudden.
He was the one stalking me to get attention in the beginning.
I just don't get it.

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@BreakfastGirl I’ve had plenty of men just vanish and he could be holding you loosely because he’s afraid to tell you. Or he could be telling the truth, there’s no way for you to really know. Even if you ask him, he can lie. But if you inquire, he may see your interest as endearing or he may let you go. I think it’d be best to know so you aren’t feeling strung along though girl. You deserve better.