I Was In a Long Distance Relationship
We met on EP and we were friends for around two years where we mostly just communicated by email. Then we finally talked on Skype and everything changed. The feeling was mutual when we decided it was a relationship later on and he was the sweetest person ever. It was both our first relationship and it was online - which sucked. It went on for 2 years and 4 months.
I ended it in December 2016 because it was uncertain when we would get to meet or whether we could ever meet in person. He was 8651 miles away to be exact. I couldn't stand not knowing when we would finally be together in person so I just had to end it. It hurt a lot for me and it hurt a lot more to see him cry, but I just had to stop what I knew was not going to work. It was better to stop then, than to let it linger when I already knew what the end's gonna be like.
We were very close and had that kind of real friendship where we could just talk about anything anytime. Even though I wanted that friendship to last, it's just impossible to go back and talk as friends after a breakup - because when we were friends, we were also in love.
I've always thought in the beginning that we were meant to be and that it would last forever because there's a low possibility that I'll ever find another person like him again. As time passed, I guess my thoughts changed and I was being more realistic and less dreamy/hopeful about the relationship we had. I was thinking of the priorities in life, things I had to take care of - family, debts etc. It was a great experience though and there are no regrets. Love isn't a bad thing, but I guess I wasn't ready for total commitment at that time when I don't have my own things sorted out. I just hope he finds someone who will be lucky enough to have him and that he'll be happy with that person.
Now, I view the online world differently and I just think it's better to meet someone in person now before deciding whether LDR works for the both of you. I don't feel like wanting to start a relationship with long distance again.
I ended it in December 2016 because it was uncertain when we would get to meet or whether we could ever meet in person. He was 8651 miles away to be exact. I couldn't stand not knowing when we would finally be together in person so I just had to end it. It hurt a lot for me and it hurt a lot more to see him cry, but I just had to stop what I knew was not going to work. It was better to stop then, than to let it linger when I already knew what the end's gonna be like.
We were very close and had that kind of real friendship where we could just talk about anything anytime. Even though I wanted that friendship to last, it's just impossible to go back and talk as friends after a breakup - because when we were friends, we were also in love.
I've always thought in the beginning that we were meant to be and that it would last forever because there's a low possibility that I'll ever find another person like him again. As time passed, I guess my thoughts changed and I was being more realistic and less dreamy/hopeful about the relationship we had. I was thinking of the priorities in life, things I had to take care of - family, debts etc. It was a great experience though and there are no regrets. Love isn't a bad thing, but I guess I wasn't ready for total commitment at that time when I don't have my own things sorted out. I just hope he finds someone who will be lucky enough to have him and that he'll be happy with that person.
Now, I view the online world differently and I just think it's better to meet someone in person now before deciding whether LDR works for the both of you. I don't feel like wanting to start a relationship with long distance again.
