How to discuss race related things around my boyfriends family

We get along and are totally fine (he’s black, I’m white), but sometimes his mom will bring up race stuff and will comment on it. I disagree with some things and occasionally want to challenge her, but most of the time I don’t make a big deal of it cause I don’t want it to be a big thing. I was curious if other people have any experience with this. I don’t really mention it much to my boyfriend, so it’s not his fault, but I don’t want to sound awkward either.

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IndianFreak

As long as your boyfriend is cool and supportive, i guess should not worry. You'll be spending your life with him if you both wish to be together.

maskedbandit · 61-69, M

My son in-law is black and we're white. We never had that issue. His parents and my wife and I eat out together. My wife and I also take care of a young black man. We took him in when he was 7. We knew his grandparents on both sides. He has known the wife and I since as long has he can remember and we love him as much as we love our grandchildren. He's about to turn 16. Just be yourself and speak up when you think you have to. Don't keep anything bottled up inside.

Kindandcurious · 41-45, F

@maskedbandit thank you! I appreciate you sharing. I guess it’s hard because his mom isn’t the most impartial about it

maskedbandit · 61-69, M

@Kindandcurious I understand.

SoftIceCream ·

Maybe talk to your mom separately and raise the subject. You two can work out an arrangement that won't offend anyone.

Kindandcurious · 41-45, F

@SoftIceCream it’s his mom, not my mom

SoftIceCream ·

@Kindandcurious Oh shoot, well guess you need to get him to talk to her. haha. I can see that being awkward.

Semen · 18-21, M

Depending on his mom’s growing up experience, she is set in her ways and you will not change her. That is something you have to accept.Nothing wrong with who you’re dating but you will have challenges from time to time. Realize though, most bi racial children have beautiful skin color. Good luck

inked · 41-45, M

depends on how indoctrinated ahe is. you just cant talk to some of them because theyve been taught that they are a victim of their own skin.

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