I'm starting to want a pleasing romantic / sexual relationship with my younger sister. Problem is she has a boyfriend. How do I go about this?

Please no answers telling me to do something crazy and out of the blue in the hopes that it will get her interested. I would like to pursue this properly by being gradual and building up trust over time.

But the fact that she has a boyfriend really doesn't help the situation. They don't really see each other in person, they mostly talk online though.

But
1.) I would like to hear some proper advice about things I could do to build up from a good brother sister relationship into something beyond just a sibling relationship, without ruining the relationship we already have by doing something drastic and jumping the gun.

2.)Also want some advice about how I could navigate this boyfriend thing in the best way possible while still increasing my chances
(Because a big part of me would feel very wrong if she went behind his back for me as I've experienced this firsthand myself, but at the same time I'm starting to want her so much, idk what to do)

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Sistersbestlove · 26-30, M

Okay, update with some good news...

Her boyfriend broke up with her!

Things seem to be falling into place more and more now

However I don't think I handled the initial conversation we had about it last night too well.

I'll just paste the messages of the conversation here:

_______ just broke up with me cause he can't be online much anymore and doesn't want me to feel ignored and stuff

Well dang. I'm sorry for that, but how do you feel about it? I personally never really felt too great about him

I'm kinda upset but I understand why

why he's going with this

I can see why you're upset about it, but trust me, with time passing new things will come 🙂 Besides, it could be a good thing in a way that he did this, because I don't think the right person that's fully committed would do that to you. I know I wouldn't if this was my situation

well he was at first but we both started getting busy with school

you never really got to know him

so I don't really like how you're talking about him like that

Sorry, I'm not trying to offend you at all. I'm just trying to help you be positive and see a bright side to this, I know it sucks and I've felt your pain before, but we don't always end up with the best person every time, especially when something happens like this. I'm not saying at all that with 100% certainty he's not good, I'm just going by what I've seen and heard. But please don't take it the wrong way, I'm just trying to help you be positive about the situation even though it's not the greatest thing to be going through

I know you like him and I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm not trying to be judgmental about him, I just want you to be happy

But I may not have worded things the best and I'm sorry. I hope you understand where I'm coming from

(She didn't reply after this but it was getting late last night.

Basically I was trying to follow some advice given here to be there for her when her bf breaks up with her. But I came off the wrong way. But still, I would like to be there for her when she needs me to.

Other than this we've pretty much been getting along really great, so I'm still really stoked about this, and if you guys have any advice for me on going forward from here then it is certainly welcome