How to Help Your Partner Appreciate You in Your Relationship.

Everyone deserves to feel appreciated. If a partner does not show you appreciation, it may indicate a lack of love. Some individuals tend to blame themselves and see themselves as victims, believing they have failed. It’s important to remind your partner of your value and significance. Ideally, you want your partner to feel concerned about losing you. Here are some ways to make your partner worry about losing you:

- Let go of your anger and avoid discussing how you feel.
- Stop pursuing them.
- Prioritize yourself.
- Look your best—feel confident and attractive.
- Choose the right moments to speak up.
- Be willing to walk away.


1. Let go of your anger and stop discussing your feelings.

If your partner treats you differently than before, it’s natural to feel worried or even angry. You may want to express how you feel and hope they will reciprocate the love and attention they once showed. However, the best approach is to release your anger and refrain from discussing it constantly. Repeating your frustrations may worsen the situation, especially if your partner isn’t ready or willing to listen. It’s crucial to manage your emotions and focus on yourself rather than constantly expressing your anger or concerns to your partner.

2. Stop Pursuing them.
Stop feeling like your significant other is taking you for granted just because they are not actively pursuing you. Your instincts may tell you to hold them closer or initiate conversations, but it’s important not to continuously pursue them. In a healthy dynamic, your partner should be the one pursuing you, not the other way around. For example, when it comes to heterosexual relationships, men often feel a strong urge to pursue women. They may not be as receptive to being pursued themselves. Men enjoy competing with other men for your attention, and if you chase after them, they may perceive that other men are not interested in you, which could also lead them to lose interest. This can diminish your perceived value in his eyes. Remember, it is his responsibility to pursue you. Allow him to initiate contact and communication first. This means you need to stop checking in on him, texting him first, or suggesting plans. Instead, let him take the lead. Although this may be difficult because you miss him or want to talk, it is crucial that you step back and let him reach out to you.

3. Prioritize Yourself

You should always come first before your partner. Learning how to love yourself is essential before you can genuinely love someone else. In a relationship, it's common for individuals to become overly focused on their partners at the expense of their own well-being. Remember that you cannot give from an empty cup; you need to take care of yourself first. It's important to be psychologically and physically healthy. Don’t let yourself become so consumed by someone else's issues that you forget about your needs. Treat yourself as the most important person in your life because you truly are. Additionally, focus on building relationships with your family and friends. Personal growth is also important to them. Make plans to engage in your own activities, even on days when you can't see them. If your partner takes you for granted, it's especially crucial to prioritize yourself. Don’t cancel your plans with friends and family; make arrangements that don’t involve your partner. If they voice their displeasure about your other commitments, they will understand that you value different aspects of your life. This will help your partner recognize their oversight and understand that you also deserve to be prioritized.

4. Look your best—feel confident and attractive.

Focus on your family and friends, as you want to grow personally alongside them. Plan to pursue your interests, even on days when you may not be able to see him.

Make sure they understand how important this is to you and that you have specific fitness goals you want to achieve. They should be supportive of the changes you are making, as it will increase your attractiveness to everyone. Don’t be surprised if he asks why you are putting in so much effort to look good. Enhance your appearance, in addition to your physical fitness. Do this whether you are with them or not. Dress well, and ensure your hair and skin look radiant, even for the men. Make it a priority to look your best. Others will notice when people pay more attention to you, which will also remind them that you are attractive. If you want to look your best, consider changing your hair color or length, altering your clothing style, or updating your makeup, especially if you're a woman. Make sure the change is noticeable. Aim for a transformation that makes you look sexier and more glamorous. This will prompt others to question why you’re making these changes. They might wonder if it's because you want to appear more attractive to someone else, which could create a slight fear of losing their place in your life. They may also start to wonder if your feelings are changing.

4. Choose the right moments to speak up.

Your partner may notice that you've been changing your life and ask why. This is your opportunity to provide examples of times you felt taken for granted and address the differences in their behavior. If they genuinely love and care for you, they should be aware of these changes and open to discussing them.

5. Be Willing to Walk Away

Any person who does not appreciate you for who you are does not deserve to be in your life. You must be prepared to walk away if they are unwilling to change or grow.

It's important for them to feel the fear of loss; they need to understand that you are willing to leave behind something that doesn't serve you well. The key takeaway from the above advice is to remind your partner of your worth. If they truly value you, they won't want to let you walk away.